Our daughter has been in a relationship for 3 years. She is 19, he is 22. Last summer we found out she was lying to her bf and us. She told another guy(boy B) she broke up with her bf and started "dating" him (at one time her current bf's close friend). She never really saw him too much because she was always with her bf and told boy B she was busy. When she did see him she would lie to us and say she was with her cousin, which didn't work one time and thats how the whole thing started to unravel for her. But they obviously saw each other enough for boy B to think they were some type of couple. She told boy B that we would not let her see him and thats why he very rarely saw her. It was the same time that she stopped attending classes at college which we are paying for. When her father and I found out about it all, she lied to us and said it was not true. Well, needless to say it was all true and we were lucky enough to get her through the classes without losing too many credits for lack of attendance We questioned all her text messages to boy B (numbers show up on bill) and she would look us straight in the eye & say it was not her. We even called Verizon in front of her...who clearly stated theses 1000's of messages were not error. Her bf doesnt really know the true story and she refused to break it off with him because "she loves him" . She told the bf they are friends and that boy B is obsessed with her and thats why he text so much....she has no problem lying to him and hiding that she texts boy B all day. for nearly 6months she played boy B along and lied to us and her bf of 3 years. She recently "broke it off" with the boy B (although she says they were never anymore than friends) but not before boy B became severely depressed because of it and was even talking about not wanting to live without her. Thank God she reached out to his mother to inform her and now he is on medication and in counceling. Once things got out we told her to back off of the texting as we felt she was unhealthy for boy B. She and boy B continue to text back an forth nearly 150 entrys per day, she says its not very much and boy B reaches out to her first but that is not true based on the bill., Shesays she loves her bf and they plan on marrying. She is not a kid, but I just can not rationalize how my daughter could lead someone on like this, play them both and sit there like she is doing nothing wrong. She has now started texting another boy recently ,a marine, and I am afraid it is going to happen again. She will lead him on, he will come home for a visit and think he has "someone" and then say she is busy and can't catch up with them. There is so much more to this but I would be writing a novel. Could someone please tell what we should do. Is she a compulsive liar? She was always such a great girl. Never has and still doesn't do drugs or drink. What is happening, why would she be doing this...for attention? She and I were like best friends.