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<blockquote data-quote="KestraSpiritNova" data-source="post: 1982328" data-attributes="member: 715435">Well, your ex is obviously unmotivated. He wasn&#039;t getting up in time to go to work, wasn&#039;t getting up in time to watch his son, and he can&#039;t be bothered to watch his son even when he&#039;s unemployed. Yet, despite that it&#039;s his own laziness at fault, he wants to make it out to be your fault... When he doesn&#039;t feel like showing up, he wants the actual reason to be that you&#039;re keeping his son from him. By presenting the situation in this way, he&#039;s trying to absolve himself of both the responsibility of seeing his son, as well as any of the guilt for failing to be there.This is why I&#039;m always a bit skeptical of when people claim their ex is keeping their child from them. Sometimes people are lying. It&#039;s not always easy to tell when someone is having a genuine problem vs. when someone is fibbing to cover their own flaws as a parent. In your case, it&#039;s definitely the latter of the two.Sorry, I just realized I didn&#039;t give you any advice. My advice would be to not make plans with dad as a focal point of your lives anymore. Go on with your life as if dad wasn&#039;t going to be a part of his life anymore, and whenever (or if) his dad does see him, it will just be &quot;extra.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="KestraSpiritNova, post: 1982328, member: 715435"] Well, your ex is obviously unmotivated. He wasn't getting up in time to go to work, wasn't getting up in time to watch his son, and he can't be bothered to watch his son even when he's unemployed. Yet, despite that it's his own laziness at fault, he wants to make it out to be your fault... When he doesn't feel like showing up, he wants the actual reason to be that you're keeping his son from him. By presenting the situation in this way, he's trying to absolve himself of both the responsibility of seeing his son, as well as any of the guilt for failing to be there. This is why I'm always a bit skeptical of when people claim their ex is keeping their child from them. Sometimes people are lying. It's not always easy to tell when someone is having a genuine problem vs. when someone is fibbing to cover their own flaws as a parent. In your case, it's definitely the latter of the two. Sorry, I just realized I didn't give you any advice. My advice would be to not make plans with dad as a focal point of your lives anymore. Go on with your life as if dad wasn't going to be a part of his life anymore, and whenever (or if) his dad does see him, it will just be "extra." [/QUOTE]

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