MandyMills
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My fiance and I have been together for over a year, and we trust each other with everything, and I tell him absolutely everything- with the exception of one thing. That I occasionally smoke pot with his brother's girlfriend, (whose also my good friend), only once in a while.
When my fiance and I started dating, I was doing a lot of recreational drugs and kinda abusing them- nothing too terrible, but he didn't like that scene, and helped me out of it, which I am forever grateful for. I completely and utterly understand why he doesn't want me smoking pot, but pot wasn't the problem back then- it was worse that that. I've done a lot of drugs to the point that I hardly consider pot a drug.
He doesn't drink, smoke, and has only smoked pot a few times, and for that, I respect him to no end. He allows me to drink occasionally and socially, and I smoke cigarettes which is fine with him (he is helping me quit though, much to his enjoyment) but he won't allow me to occasionally smoke weed.
I have done it a few times with his brothers girlfriend (we all live together right now) and i've told him after, because I cannot hide anything from him, and he's blown it waaay out of proportion. He can't tell i'm high unless I tell him- whereas when I drink, my low tolerance becomes apparent, and I always get pretty hammered.
I've been smoking very occasionally and socially only with his brother's girlfriend, who is also my close friend- and I haven't been telling him. I've promised not to, and I know if he knew, he'd be so mad, but I really enjoy doing it socially. All it does is calm me down and ease my stress. I don't act like an idiot, and he never, ever notices. I know that pot doesn't mess me up nearly as much as drinking does, I think if he knew more about weed, he wouldn't mind - but he's very closed minded and stubborn, and wouldn't understand.
Should I tell him? Should I stop? Am I at fault for this?
I love my fiance more than life itself - I never hide anything from him, and every time I do it, I feel guilty. He's an amazing man, and I'd never want to hurt him. I know he wouldn't leave me if he knew, he'd just be mad and disapointed.
Opinions please!!
Also - Will this deeply hurt our relationship? Am I a bad person for doing this? I truly do love him, and if he asked me if I was high, I'd tell him yes because I don't lie to him. I only just don't tell him, because he never notices or asks.
When my fiance and I started dating, I was doing a lot of recreational drugs and kinda abusing them- nothing too terrible, but he didn't like that scene, and helped me out of it, which I am forever grateful for. I completely and utterly understand why he doesn't want me smoking pot, but pot wasn't the problem back then- it was worse that that. I've done a lot of drugs to the point that I hardly consider pot a drug.
He doesn't drink, smoke, and has only smoked pot a few times, and for that, I respect him to no end. He allows me to drink occasionally and socially, and I smoke cigarettes which is fine with him (he is helping me quit though, much to his enjoyment) but he won't allow me to occasionally smoke weed.
I have done it a few times with his brothers girlfriend (we all live together right now) and i've told him after, because I cannot hide anything from him, and he's blown it waaay out of proportion. He can't tell i'm high unless I tell him- whereas when I drink, my low tolerance becomes apparent, and I always get pretty hammered.
I've been smoking very occasionally and socially only with his brother's girlfriend, who is also my close friend- and I haven't been telling him. I've promised not to, and I know if he knew, he'd be so mad, but I really enjoy doing it socially. All it does is calm me down and ease my stress. I don't act like an idiot, and he never, ever notices. I know that pot doesn't mess me up nearly as much as drinking does, I think if he knew more about weed, he wouldn't mind - but he's very closed minded and stubborn, and wouldn't understand.
Should I tell him? Should I stop? Am I at fault for this?
I love my fiance more than life itself - I never hide anything from him, and every time I do it, I feel guilty. He's an amazing man, and I'd never want to hurt him. I know he wouldn't leave me if he knew, he'd just be mad and disapointed.
Opinions please!!
Also - Will this deeply hurt our relationship? Am I a bad person for doing this? I truly do love him, and if he asked me if I was high, I'd tell him yes because I don't lie to him. I only just don't tell him, because he never notices or asks.