FluffyGirl
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- Mar 15, 2010
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...staying at home?!? I am 23 yrs old and my fiance just turned 34. Needless to say we have received much objection about our relationship from family and friends due to the age difference. Up until now, it has never been a problem. He is loving, attentive, caring, and every good quality you could think of.
Before we met, he was doing very well financially. He would take his ex girlfriend on trips to Las Vegas on a regular basis as well as buy her expensive gifts. Since then, his business fell through and he is pretty much broke. This girl left him as soon as the money was gone and it really seemed to hit him hard how she used him.
I am not a materialistic person, but I recently mentioned to him that before we get married I wanted to go on a 3 day vacation to celebrate our anniversary; because we have NEVER been on vacation together! He didn't say no, just that we would try to save for it, but I know him, and when he wants to do something, he makes definite plans. He has lived and done many things and seems content with that, whereas I left my parents house to be with him and I have not done much living at all.
It frustrates me that because he has seen the world and done many things and is content with staying at home he believes I should be too. But I am young and even though I don't want him taking me on lavish vacations like he did with his ex, even a cheap road trip once in a while would be nice.
Am I being too demanding and insensitive towards him? I have not mentioned to him how much this bothers me because I'm still thinking of how to address the issue.
I think I'm more upset with the fact that he makes zero effort to do anything like that for me whereas he would bend over backwards for his ex and spend loads of money on her but he cannot even plan something simple for the two of us.
Before we met, he was doing very well financially. He would take his ex girlfriend on trips to Las Vegas on a regular basis as well as buy her expensive gifts. Since then, his business fell through and he is pretty much broke. This girl left him as soon as the money was gone and it really seemed to hit him hard how she used him.
I am not a materialistic person, but I recently mentioned to him that before we get married I wanted to go on a 3 day vacation to celebrate our anniversary; because we have NEVER been on vacation together! He didn't say no, just that we would try to save for it, but I know him, and when he wants to do something, he makes definite plans. He has lived and done many things and seems content with that, whereas I left my parents house to be with him and I have not done much living at all.
It frustrates me that because he has seen the world and done many things and is content with staying at home he believes I should be too. But I am young and even though I don't want him taking me on lavish vacations like he did with his ex, even a cheap road trip once in a while would be nice.
Am I being too demanding and insensitive towards him? I have not mentioned to him how much this bothers me because I'm still thinking of how to address the issue.
I think I'm more upset with the fact that he makes zero effort to do anything like that for me whereas he would bend over backwards for his ex and spend loads of money on her but he cannot even plan something simple for the two of us.