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<blockquote data-quote="pictureshygirl" data-source="post: 2064023" data-attributes="member: 413910"><p>Everyone one of us is different in our emotions. Some people would think nothing of their spouinbeing called babe by someone else, yet for others it creates a boundary that was crossed that feels too intimate. You feel pet names such as babe belong between you and your husband only. So her calling him babe upsets you because you feel she is somehow being closer than just a friend. Your husband explains that she calls everyone that so it is no big deal. The real problem here is that your husband has not validated your feelings and you have shown a lack of understanding for the explanation he gave you. The real issue is how he refuses to introduce this female friend to you with the excuse that he fears she may hit on you. I feel this excuse is something he made up to avoid introducing her to you, as to why I am not clear. So what if she hits on you, you are not into women so this should not be a cause of concern for him. And, if he thinks so little of her that she would actually hit on his own wife, then this indicates he has no trust in her as the friend he calls her to be. Something is not right here. If he had nothing to hide he would introduce her to you so that you can at least lay to rest some fear and insecurity issues within you. Your husband needs to stop putting this other woman&#039;s feelings as a priority over how you feel and he needs to stop hiding her from you. Otherwise she becomes this mysterious other woman who is calling and texting your husband leaving you to wonder if there is more to their friendship than what he is saying. You two have to build on trust. To do so means you both do what it takes to reasure each other. Your husband needs to understand that most women will feel uncomfortable and somewhat threatened by another female calling and texting even if he calls her a friend. The problem with this is that she is his friend and he does not make her your friend. This leaves you feeling on the outside looking in. You both need to work together to build trust and this is done with putting each others feelings as a priority without leaving respect for each other out. I hope I have helped in answering your question.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="pictureshygirl, post: 2064023, member: 413910"] Everyone one of us is different in our emotions. Some people would think nothing of their spouinbeing called babe by someone else, yet for others it creates a boundary that was crossed that feels too intimate. You feel pet names such as babe belong between you and your husband only. So her calling him babe upsets you because you feel she is somehow being closer than just a friend. Your husband explains that she calls everyone that so it is no big deal. The real problem here is that your husband has not validated your feelings and you have shown a lack of understanding for the explanation he gave you. The real issue is how he refuses to introduce this female friend to you with the excuse that he fears she may hit on you. I feel this excuse is something he made up to avoid introducing her to you, as to why I am not clear. So what if she hits on you, you are not into women so this should not be a cause of concern for him. And, if he thinks so little of her that she would actually hit on his own wife, then this indicates he has no trust in her as the friend he calls her to be. Something is not right here. If he had nothing to hide he would introduce her to you so that you can at least lay to rest some fear and insecurity issues within you. Your husband needs to stop putting this other woman's feelings as a priority over how you feel and he needs to stop hiding her from you. Otherwise she becomes this mysterious other woman who is calling and texting your husband leaving you to wonder if there is more to their friendship than what he is saying. You two have to build on trust. To do so means you both do what it takes to reasure each other. Your husband needs to understand that most women will feel uncomfortable and somewhat threatened by another female calling and texting even if he calls her a friend. The problem with this is that she is his friend and he does not make her your friend. This leaves you feeling on the outside looking in. You both need to work together to build trust and this is done with putting each others feelings as a priority without leaving respect for each other out. I hope I have helped in answering your question. [/QUOTE]

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