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<blockquote data-quote="david" data-source="post: 2659068" data-attributes="member: 207029"><p>I have been dating this beautiful woman for almost two years and the other day we were out to dinner and ran into some mutual friends of ours. When they arrived at the table I let go of her hand. As the conversation continued she reached for my hand again and I just tapped her lightly to let her know I didn&#039;t want to hold her hand. It was just not cool. She cut her eyes at me quickly and was pretty reserved throughout the rest of the evening, even after our friends got their own table. When we got in the car I asked her what was wrong and she said was fine. I asked her again when we got home. Very upset with me but respectable and sweet as always she let me know that she felt that I was ashamed of her. She said her pda wasn&#039;t for show because she could care less what other people think or don&#039;t think but because she truly loved me and affection whether private or public was her way of letting me know she cared and loved me. She says this is who she is and how she loves but when I pull away she feels rejected. Her pda is just wanting me to hold her hand or just touch her period and maybe a peck on the lips. I do the peck every now and then but that other stuff is not me. I feel she should really understand. My ex-wife never liked pda and because of I&#039;m a minister and cop I have to conduct myself in a certain way. For the past few months I&#039;ve noticed she is very careful not to even accidently touch me in public. She even seems a little irrated when I do stuff like open her car door even though she doesn&#039;t say anything. At home however, she is very affectionate but in public she very reserved toward me. She knows that I love her because I show it and I&#039;ve told her several times. I&#039;ll admit I don&#039;t say it often but I am very affectionate at home and not just in the bedroom. This is reallly an issue with her, a silent one, but it does bother her. I personally don&#039;t see what the big deal is but I don&#039;t want this to ruin our relationship. So can a brother get a little advice?</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="david, post: 2659068, member: 207029"] I have been dating this beautiful woman for almost two years and the other day we were out to dinner and ran into some mutual friends of ours. When they arrived at the table I let go of her hand. As the conversation continued she reached for my hand again and I just tapped her lightly to let her know I didn't want to hold her hand. It was just not cool. She cut her eyes at me quickly and was pretty reserved throughout the rest of the evening, even after our friends got their own table. When we got in the car I asked her what was wrong and she said was fine. I asked her again when we got home. Very upset with me but respectable and sweet as always she let me know that she felt that I was ashamed of her. She said her pda wasn't for show because she could care less what other people think or don't think but because she truly loved me and affection whether private or public was her way of letting me know she cared and loved me. She says this is who she is and how she loves but when I pull away she feels rejected. Her pda is just wanting me to hold her hand or just touch her period and maybe a peck on the lips. I do the peck every now and then but that other stuff is not me. I feel she should really understand. My ex-wife never liked pda and because of I'm a minister and cop I have to conduct myself in a certain way. For the past few months I've noticed she is very careful not to even accidently touch me in public. She even seems a little irrated when I do stuff like open her car door even though she doesn't say anything. At home however, she is very affectionate but in public she very reserved toward me. She knows that I love her because I show it and I've told her several times. I'll admit I don't say it often but I am very affectionate at home and not just in the bedroom. This is reallly an issue with her, a silent one, but it does bother her. I personally don't see what the big deal is but I don't want this to ruin our relationship. So can a brother get a little advice? [/QUOTE]

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