picking up my self esteem after rejection?

[My_mia]

recently got back together with a old flame ofter 1.5 years and he is coming up with every excuse under the sun as to why it won't work out with us. These excuses are coming up after he chased me for the entire 1.5 years by calling me and texting me non-stop, asking me out. It hurst because when I finally get back with him, he's coming up with excuses. So now I'm thinking he doesn't find me attractive anymore. Maybe he doesn't like my haircut, maybe I have aged in the face since he's seen me last,maybe he noticed I"m 10 pounds heavier, etc. The thing about it is, he is no bauty king himself. He has stuff about him that I have overlooked because I loved him, and actually, it wouldn't matter to me if he was hit by a car and ended up having a deformed face....my love for him wouldn't have changed a bit. So now I'm a little hurt, feeling like I'm ugly. What can I do to make me realize that it's his loss?? he never said that he found me unattractive or less attractive than I was 1.5 years ago, he's just making every excuse to not see me again, and the last time I did see him, he didn't kiss me because "he had a cold". What else am I supposed to think?

 

[SillySally]

It sounds like he's playing games with your head. I don't think you should see this as directly pertaining to your physical appearance; we women have a tendancy to always think that that is the issue when in reality it has nothing to do with how we look. It seems like he's just keeping you at arms length so you can serve him as a "spare tire". You should have more self respect for yourself then to allow him to manipulate you like this.

Go find yourself who's more worth your time. Pearls to the swine, my dear.

And I'll bet you once you do start trying to date other people, he'll all of the sudden change his tune and get jealous and act like he wants you back.