loserguurl
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So, as I venture deeper and deeper into the adoption journey with our family, several things stand out for me. One, is that each adoption has such intense feelings associated with it and are all very different from one another. Second, hardly anyone is the general community at large knows anything about adoption, adoption issues, the types of adoptions out there. Can the community share constructive stories about surprising areas of ignorance (schools, families, neighbors, doctors offices etc) and areas of support that surprised them? What did you do in response to either one?
I had two stories--one family member who said she hoped I wasn't adopting "one of those ghetto babies" which shocked me of course. It was a big clue that prompted me to dig in and do some research about what was going on in the world at large on adoptions. And then another good story where my 82 YO grandmother called me with an extremely open mind and asked questions rather than go off of any assumptions. She and my grandfather had adopted a really long time ago and never told my aunt and it had horrible implications later on. She really and sincerely wanted to talk about it and talk about what they would have done different if they would have known better. I about fell over in my chair on that one too.
I had two stories--one family member who said she hoped I wasn't adopting "one of those ghetto babies" which shocked me of course. It was a big clue that prompted me to dig in and do some research about what was going on in the world at large on adoptions. And then another good story where my 82 YO grandmother called me with an extremely open mind and asked questions rather than go off of any assumptions. She and my grandfather had adopted a really long time ago and never told my aunt and it had horrible implications later on. She really and sincerely wanted to talk about it and talk about what they would have done different if they would have known better. I about fell over in my chair on that one too.