Ramadan: What to do about all the rumors about me?? help plz?

[mm1]

Salam alaikum everyone...
im having a hard time and i feel really sick of other people spreading rumors about me, i did a big mistake before and had a boyfriend and broke up with him, he thought i cheated on him and now hes telling everyone that i was his girlfriend and that i had sex with him and that i cheated on him (which i didnt) and as he is passing it on, the "gossip" girls are spreading it around even more. I dont know what to do, my best friend says to ignore them and keep your head high but it just makes me sick.
I need your dua everyone! Plz what can i do about this situation? It's giving me such a bad name in my community and i just wish no one even knew me anymore! Help plz my brothers and sisters :'(

 

[aekolathil]

Talk to him through a mediator or directly and tell him the facts and ask him to stop insulting you.

 

[Ash786]

Wasalaam If you consider yourself to being muslim then you should have been taught the rulings of ISLAM, In ISLAM it has been made very clear as to what is acceptable and what is not acceptable between males and females who are not married to each other, What Islam says is right is easy to remember because we are told that before marriage there is to be virtually no contact at all between males and females. In Islam, there is no such thing as a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. You are either married or you are not. It stands to reason that having a girlfriend is not the manner of a Muslim. It is forbidden for a male Muslim to have a girlfriend, as it is forbidden for a female Muslim to have a boyfriend. Muslims should have good relations with all people, males as well as females, at school, at work, in you neighborhood etc. You should be kind and courteous to everyone. However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a non-mahram person or persons of the opposite gender as a very close friend. Such friendship often leads to haram. In the Qur’an, Allah mentioned that good men and women are those who marry, do not have fornicating relationships and do not have "paramours" or Akhdan.

Akhdan are "sweethearts" or for a man a "mistress" and for a woman a "lover". The Prophet, peace and blessings be upom him, is reported to have stated that “whenever two strangers of the opposite gender are alone with each other, Satan becomes the third one between them.” So it is not allowed for a Muslim boy to have a girlfriend or for a Muslim girl to have a boyfriend. Howsoever pure your intentions may be, the danger is that it will lead you to sin. Or at least you will be alone with each other and spend more time together.

Also referring back to the rumors being spread about you, ignore them and consider this as a punishment from Allah subhana'wat'ala. It is best to be punished for any sins we have committed whether large or little on earth as the punishment for any sin is a greater punishment in the grave. You should be relieved for being punished so little on earth rather than a severe punishment in the grave, by this it only proves how much Allah (swt) loves you by punishing you little on earth rather than a greater punishment in the grave. You should be pleased with yourself for this and also for finally choosing the correct path which is indeed the path of ALLAH ALMIGHTY.

You are a great person as you had the courage for leaving him, he is a looser and a complete failure for his taken actions against you which proves he was only using you all along for fun, if he had any respect for you he would leave you alone and not spread any rumors about you. He will be punished very severely INSHALLAH.

You should raise your head up high with the happiness that our creator has forgiven you for the punishment of grave by punishing you very little on earth. You were indeed a victim in all this hurdle, he used and abused your trust. Learn a lesson from this to never create the same mistake again as you are too good for that.

As for all those people who are involved in spreading rumors about you are losers. The punishment for gossip is that the person guilty of it will have to give their good deeds to the person they wronged on the day of Judgement. Also the person guilty of gossip will be punished in their graves for this sin. The way to deal with it is to understand that you can not control people nor what they say. Instead ignore it. Make dua to Allah to protect you from the hasad (jealousy) or envy of others and continue on with your life and ignore the talk of others.