I've always gotten along with my Mother-In-Law but things have seemed to change since my husband and I got married. My husband and I live in my home town of Indianapolis, my mother in law lives in Tennessee (where my husband is from) and is thinking of moving to be closer to us - or just to her son.
Before I was married, my Mother in Law and I communicated regularly. When my husband proposed and the wedding planning began, I tried very hard to keep her involved and in the loop of everything going on. I asked her for advice, opinions because its pretty common for the groom's family to get shoved to the side during all the wedding plans, especially since the wedding was here in Indianapolis. Over the past year (we were married last august), she has grown very distant towards me. She rarely calls me (I've picked up the phone and called her to say hi) and if she does, she calls my husband. I've tried to help her with house hunting here, will send her info, and she never responds to me. I've tried discussing this with my husband and he said she doesn't want to "bother us". I mentioned about how she and I were close with the wedding and he said it was because she wanted to feel involved. Him saying that kind of made me feel used.
Whenever we are in town, she acts like nothing is wrong. From now on, if I find something that she might be interested in, I send it to my husband to relay to her. She called my husband last week and thought it would be a GREAT idea that she move in with us in our guest room. That she would help us pay for expenses (We don't need help, thank you). My husband told her no and nipped it in the bud before he even discussed it with me. She told him she wanted to move closer to be with us and to be around for whenever my husband and I have children. I know he is her son and she will talk to him about things first, but I feel like I've been shoved off to the side. Some of my friends tell me to count my blessings that she's distant. I guess my feelings are just a little hurt. Any advice?
Before I was married, my Mother in Law and I communicated regularly. When my husband proposed and the wedding planning began, I tried very hard to keep her involved and in the loop of everything going on. I asked her for advice, opinions because its pretty common for the groom's family to get shoved to the side during all the wedding plans, especially since the wedding was here in Indianapolis. Over the past year (we were married last august), she has grown very distant towards me. She rarely calls me (I've picked up the phone and called her to say hi) and if she does, she calls my husband. I've tried to help her with house hunting here, will send her info, and she never responds to me. I've tried discussing this with my husband and he said she doesn't want to "bother us". I mentioned about how she and I were close with the wedding and he said it was because she wanted to feel involved. Him saying that kind of made me feel used.
Whenever we are in town, she acts like nothing is wrong. From now on, if I find something that she might be interested in, I send it to my husband to relay to her. She called my husband last week and thought it would be a GREAT idea that she move in with us in our guest room. That she would help us pay for expenses (We don't need help, thank you). My husband told her no and nipped it in the bud before he even discussed it with me. She told him she wanted to move closer to be with us and to be around for whenever my husband and I have children. I know he is her son and she will talk to him about things first, but I feel like I've been shoved off to the side. Some of my friends tell me to count my blessings that she's distant. I guess my feelings are just a little hurt. Any advice?