I’m from the UK and am now living and working in Korea, but, by Christmas, I'll probably leave Korea permanently. I've been friends with a Korean man for a couple of months and have started developing strong feelings for him. However, my head knows it's not wise to start a relationship because I'll leave in less than a year. He told my friend he likes me in the same way but he too is unsure about a relationship because I'll go back to my country. If I were to stay in Korea, I think I wouldn't want it to be for life. However, I'm also aware that my plans may possibly change if I have a relationship and fall in love - that's the scary part.
If I think logically, I can find many reasons to keep it as friendship only and nothing else. In addition, our cultures are very different, as are some of our long-term plans for the future. But you know what they say: the heart wants what the heart wants. I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him when I’m not with him. It's crazy; I'm 28 years old and I haven't had these crush-like feelings since I was a teenager. I'm not usually like this at all. If I muster up all my self-discipline, maybe I can stop myself - I keep asking myself: should I try to quash my feelings? Sorry this is long. I would be grateful if you would answer my questions:
1. If he too decides he wants to have a relationship, do you think I should be open to it?
2. Is it more important to do what seems logical and therefore right (not pursue a relationship) or to follow my heart?
2. Am I right in seriously considering the long-term implications of the relationship, before the relationship has started, or should I just go with the flow?
3. Should I try distancing myself from him in order to stop my feelings? It seems I can't be friends with him without thinking about being more than that.
If I think logically, I can find many reasons to keep it as friendship only and nothing else. In addition, our cultures are very different, as are some of our long-term plans for the future. But you know what they say: the heart wants what the heart wants. I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him when I’m not with him. It's crazy; I'm 28 years old and I haven't had these crush-like feelings since I was a teenager. I'm not usually like this at all. If I muster up all my self-discipline, maybe I can stop myself - I keep asking myself: should I try to quash my feelings? Sorry this is long. I would be grateful if you would answer my questions:
1. If he too decides he wants to have a relationship, do you think I should be open to it?
2. Is it more important to do what seems logical and therefore right (not pursue a relationship) or to follow my heart?
2. Am I right in seriously considering the long-term implications of the relationship, before the relationship has started, or should I just go with the flow?
3. Should I try distancing myself from him in order to stop my feelings? It seems I can't be friends with him without thinking about being more than that.