screams,cries & whines for everything-he just turned 3 in december PLEASE HELP!!!?

[nmoonglow88]

Im sorry to say but you probaly enabled this in the begining as he sounds like he is the baby of the family.

its going to come down to repetition on your part - when he screams and crys over cookies, you take them away and tell him to go to his room until he can come down and apologize for acting like that - if it takes an hour so be it! Whatever you do - do NOT give in to his tantrums!!!!!! You need to teach him that the fits are not acceptable. If he starts crying bc he wants to play tell him to go play - if for some reason he starts to scream bc its "not right" - you tell him playtime is over with for now till he learns that the fits are not ok and send him to his room to sit on his bed!

Its going to take you being strong (and your s\o, husband or whatever) - bc you will have to be united!

Best of luck

 

[felibertyj]

screams,cries & whines for everything-he just turned 3 in december PLEASE HELP!!!?

it has been going on since he was 1 1/2 and has gotten worse
he cries because he wants to play then he cries cuz he wants to play something else he cries cuz he wants 5 cookies and a corner is missing off of one cookie he cries he cries for everything and nothing i have tried sending him to his room until he calms down,time outs,asking him whats wrong telling him to stop crying and tell me whats wrong WHAT ELSE CAN I DO (i have to older kids and never had this problem there all boys) any other suggestions on what to do

also when he starts crying he doesnt stop for a long time then when he finally stops when i talk to him about him being a big boy that he has to stop screaming all the time he starts screaming all over again
I CANNOT EVEN KEEP TRACK OF HOW MANY TIMES HE CRIES OR THROWS CRAZY TANTRUMS IN JUST THE FIRST HALF OF THE DAY LET ALONE THE WHOLE DAY ITS OUT OF CONTROL
I NEVER GIVE INTO HIS TANTRUMS AND AS I SAID BEFORE I HAVE SENT HIM TO HIS ROOM AND GIVE HIM TIMEOUTS IT HAS NOT WORKED!!!!!
AND HE IS NOT THE BABY OF THE FAMILY I HAVE A 2 MONTH OLD
I HAVE SMACKED HIM,HE WILL CRY
BUT THEN WHEN HE FINISHES CRYING HE WILL DO THE EXACT SAME THING HE JUST GOT IN TROUBLE FOR

 

[ruddy_scot]

Ignore him, instead of doing anything like sending him to his room or time outs, just ignore him. Show him that he won't get any attention for that kind of behaviour and walk away. Toddlers are still learning words for their feelings and how to say what they want and get easily frustrated, they also know when you are frustrated. Do both of you a favor and leave the room. When he stops finally and comes to you and asks for something praise him for using words instead of whining and tell him you like it when he talks instead of cries.