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<blockquote data-quote="PostGrungeJunky" data-source="post: 3261698" data-attributes="member: 136464">At the same time, the &quot;fact&quot; that other people are stupid and/ore inconsequient doesn&#039;t excuse me for dropping to the same level. If someone asks me not to use a funny name, or a race-stereotypical-demeanoring word, that is the same for me. Intention is everything, and it&#039;s not up to me to point out that &quot;you should not feel offended, because I can prove that you used the same word against one of your own at some point&quot;.That would be as if I &quot;caught&quot; one of my soldiers using a word like &quot;dork&quot; on a fellow soldier; that doesn&#039;t mean it&#039;s right for me as a 2nd.lt. to adress him as dork.The way I ended up with this point of wiew was when I dropped the N-word amongst collegues, and one of them got mad at me, using the word, as she had an adopted son with that colour and ethnic background. I defended myself that I didn&#039;t know that she had a black son, and that realizing that she did have a black son, I could understand that she felt offended on his behalf, and she was OK with that. That I feel that it was an over-reaction, and that I peronally don&#039;t see how someone can go ballistic over a word is sort of irrelevant, IMO, and to show respect, I have stopped using the word.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="PostGrungeJunky, post: 3261698, member: 136464"] At the same time, the "fact" that other people are stupid and/ore inconsequient doesn't excuse me for dropping to the same level. If someone asks me not to use a funny name, or a race-stereotypical-demeanoring word, that is the same for me. Intention is everything, and it's not up to me to point out that "you should not feel offended, because I can prove that you used the same word against one of your own at some point". That would be as if I "caught" one of my soldiers using a word like "dork" on a fellow soldier; that doesn't mean it's right for me as a 2nd.lt. to adress him as dork. The way I ended up with this point of wiew was when I dropped the N-word amongst collegues, and one of them got mad at me, using the word, as she had an adopted son with that colour and ethnic background. I defended myself that I didn't know that she had a black son, and that realizing that she did have a black son, I could understand that she felt offended on his behalf, and she was OK with that. That I feel that it was an over-reaction, and that I peronally don't see how someone can go ballistic over a word is sort of irrelevant, IMO, and to show respect, I have stopped using the word. [/QUOTE]

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