Sex is very painful for me and I'm not exactly sure where to seek help...?

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My boyfriend and I decided to have sex for the first time a few weeks ago. We used a condom and he entered me, but I was in too much pain to actually go through with it.
About a week later we decided to try for a second time and the same thing happened, it just hurt way too much to let him finish and I was not enjoying it at all. We had to stop and then I noticed that I was bleeding, which continued for about 2 days after we initially had sex. He felt just awful for inflicting so much pain on me and did not want to have sex until I was perfectly up to it physically.
So I thought about a week later that it would be ok and we tried it again for the third time (stupid I know) and it did not feel any better it just hurt a lot and I began to bleed.

I am definitely going to see some sort of health care professional. I live in Toronto, Canada and there are health clinics available for free but I am not sure if this would be an appropriate concern for them to deal with or not, also I'm not sure exactly what to say when I get there.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do next or does any know what could possible be wrong with me?
 
i have endometriosis and sometimes it is painful for me to.. maybe get a check up? but just curious was this your "first time" or the first time with this boyfriend? if it was your very first time it is normal for sex to painful the first couple times and sometimes there is bleeding
 
It could be number of things, any doctor would be able to give you the advice you need, and be able to help you out.
 
It has to be dealt with slowly and patiently. It represents a big change for you since you were completely inactive before and like all changes it takes time for you to get used to them. You need to talk about it specially with your partner because as you say it is difficult to talk about these things with professionals because it feels as if you were involving them in something that belongs to your privacy, but search for help, if you keep it locked inside it'll get harder to change.
 
As a woman about to experience sexual intimacy for the first time it is a very good idea to see a gynecologist anyway. Once a woman begins to have sex it is important to get regular check ups and have a professional who is accustomed to answering the types of questions you have right now.

A good gynecologist will be willing to listen and address each of your concerns so that you can proceed with confidence and comfort. Your boyfriend sounds like a very special guy and seems to really care for you. Once the doctor can explain what the problem is and what to do about it you will most likely be able to really enjoy a lovely and fulfilling relationship with this super guy of yours! Good luck!
 
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