Should I introduce him to my daughter too?

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I have been dating this gentleman for 3 weeks now. We met online and seem to have a lot in common. We both have young children, (6 years and under) and I have issues with meeting or introducing children to a potential relationship before I know if it's going to be serious or lasting. Last night we had planned to meet at his house for dinner, when I got there he had his children with him. I felt a little weird about this, I had a great time with his two beautiful kids, I work with small children so they warm up to me quickly. But, I feel like this may have been a little too soon and I feel like he should have told me he was going to have his kids there. Of course, I had a wonderful time, but I feel like it might be moving to quick when there are children involved, and I must honestly say, I'm not ready to introduce him to my daughter. Am I making too much out of this? Or does it seem odd?

Thank you!
 
I respect and agree with your approach. Waiting doesn't hurt much in this situation. Separate your love life from your precious children until you believe/know this will result in a serious relationship. I think introducing and removing a parent-figure to a child's life multiple times does much more harm than not having that parent figure there.
 
I wouldn't introduce my son to a stranger I've known for 3 weeks.
 
I think he should have waited longer. I also think that the other parent should know who you are first, or that you even exist first. I agree that things need to be serious before meeting the new SO.

I have been in this situation with my own son. I knew my husband as a friendly acquaintance for 2 years before we began dating. It took a few months for me to introduce him to my son still, even though I knew him very well. It also took well over a year of living together for me to allow him to watch my son alone. I always preferred to be safe rather than sorry. They are now best of friends. He was 2 when he met him.

On the flip side. My son's father began dating this woman and having sleep overs right away. The only reason I knew she existed was because they were in bed (still at 11 am) when I dropped my son for a visit with his father. That was 8 months ago. She pretty much lives there, yet I have not met her and my son spends weekends there. His father has told our son that she is a friend and my son seems confused. My son is now almost 7.
I find it horribly disrespectful that I am not "allowed" to meet a person who spends time with my son.

Anyway, I think you are being responsible. i also think maybe you should let him know that while you enjoy his company you don't feel it's a good idea to be around his kids yet. As they may become attached and then lose you.
 
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