Shy boyfriend isn't ready for sex? What can I do to help bedsides wait?

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Chloe

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I've been with my boyfriend for 4 and half months now. He recently told me that he's a virgin and never been in any kind of relationship before, which I'd kind of worked out by then but I could tell how difficult it was for him to tell me. He is very, very quiet and shy. He's 24 and I'm 19.

We always make out and thats great but I really want us to take the next step and have sex. Thing is he says he wants to wait because he doesn't want me to regret anything about our relationship. I've told him I won't regret it and he says he loves me and I've told him the same so what's holding him back!!

He also keeps asking me if I'm ok and asking if I'm sure whenever we do anything like kiss or cuddle. I don't want to pressure him or anything but I'm not used to this from guys!
 
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Brittz1

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This is probably not the answer you want to hear, but wait until he is ready or he will end up despising you for pushing him into something he feels he is not ready for. Have a talk to him about it, maybe he is just nervous and doesnt want to pressure you. When your making out ask him if he wants to take things further. And see what happens GOOD LUCK :)
 
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BusyBee1

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By the sounds of it you've got yourself a very RARE and very very respectful guy! And you are taking him for granted!! Geez, he's not ready, so stop pushing him. Respect that he doesn't want to and get over it.
 
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ChigzyD

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Seems like with him you might have to make a move ... next time you make out dont ask just start rubbing his crotch and give him a BJ ...

You guys need to take it to next level and it seems as if you will have to break that barrier ...

Maybe just maybe he is lacking confidence in bed too.
 
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EricS

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It sounds like you have found a man in a thousand, don't push him, its the most natural thing in the world and he will make it. The thought of man prior to his first sex are just as complicated as any girl
You want to please your partner, your worried your make a hash of it, the amount of things that go through your mind. Sex's for the first time is seldom a wow, its a voyage into discovery.
 
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samshouts

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He is going through some heavy pressure. He clearly feel he is lacking somewhere, and that you will leave him.

His thoughts are probably along the lines that, you have a decent sex drive, and like other shallow girls he has examined before, will leave him if he doesn't measure up.

If you like him and want to stay with him

Then just take the lead. Like seriously lead the situation. ANd make sure he knows it doesnt matter how bad the first time is...it will get better the more you do it.

Good Luck
 
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SweetLemon

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Maybe he doesnt want to have sex with you, and hes a virgin he will want to lose it to someone he reeeally wants to. You sound really pushy
 
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