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Message: <blockquote data-quote="SaraM" data-source="post: 2584827" data-attributes="member: 137529">im going to try to make this as short as possible, but it will still be long. i was in the PERFECT relationship with the man of my dreams this past year. we got along great, never fought, always laughing, everything i want in a man and more. thing is, he lives in NM, and i live in TX (6 hours away). hes in the air force, and hes from where i live, so we were doing the long distance thing for about 10 months, i saw him every other week and it was perfect. ive never felt more loved and secure in my life. hes so sweet and so thoughtful with everything he does for me. always telling me hes going to marry me, and wants kids w/ me, and blah bla bla. anyways, he got news that he is going to korea for a year, the rest of his enlistment, and we decided that i move in with him till he has to go (4 months). we talked alooot about it and i decided i was going to be ok with this year apart because i loved him so much. i was just going to stay busy, get a job or 2, go back to school, focus on my fitness so i can look extra sexy for him when he comes home. so now, the DAY of our 1 year anniversary, not only did he not do SH!T, he explains to me how stressed out he is. (which i agree, he really is.. he is still going through a long drawn out divorce (they've been separated for years, just never did anything about it till we started dating, and a year later, they are still in the process, he needs to fire his lawyer, but that's another Y!A post) which is costing him more WAY more money then he can spend, he just became a staff sergeant at work, bills, hes in school, bills, unsure of what he wants to do w/ his future, bills and bills. so in the midst of talking to me, out of left field he tells me he wants a break and that i need to go home!!! we have 2 effing months left till he has a whooole year "break" and he makes me go home now. but he DOESN'T want to break up. he says he loves me. that his unhappiness has nothing to do w/ me and that he doesn't want this to affect the relationship, he even cried, a lot, when he was trying to explain himself. now ive been home for 4 days. he calls me everyday. and texts me everyday. and doesn't even bring it up. just talks about his day and asks how im doing. today though, i told him that i feel that things are different. i just feel like he doesn't love me or something, and that he doesn't care to make me feel better about this, and that i don't understand why he wouldn't want me around the last precious 2 months we have together. and he gets irritated and keeps saying that he needs this, and just because he sent me home doesn't mean he doesn't love me, and that if i needed a break he would do it for me. and he doesn't understand why i don't understand why he needs a break. i don't think we are going to make it through this year because of his rash decision and i told him that. and all he can say is "if that's how you feel, then..." im to the point now that i just want to ignore him. not to be mean, but to give him what he wants. space. a break. i figured it would do one of 2 things, hed either get mad and end it, or hed get sad and now were both sad cause im home and im not moving back. i don't know what to do. he really is my everything. but im not sure if i should just go ahead and break up, save the trouble, because i don't feel confident anymore.</blockquote>

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