Blackvenoml2001
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Ok... here is the deal... I was dating a girl that worked for social services about a year and a half ago... it was good for awhile and then she cheated on me because she thought I was cheating on her... I was not... and when I found out I left her... since that time she has tried to get back with me constantly and I have said no... and then cut off all contact...
The problem is... that she keeps interfering with my relationships...
I have dated three girls... since then and all three of them have mysteriously disappeared on me... things were going well... and then poof gone... and I mean very well... no arguments... nothing...
Well I finally found out some answers from the first girl I dated... she had a single kid... the father was not in the picture and she was not getting child support... it seems that some how social services got involved in the picture behind the scenes and started to force the issue... she had never told the father of the child about her son... and so during all of the pressure and stuff she bailed on me...
Turns out the second girl that I was dating was in the same situation... her oldest child (she had two)... was from a different father... and she was not collecting child support from him and did not want him in the picture... this one I have not went back and confronted yet... but it would not suprise me if there was not a similar connection...
Finally the thrid girl told me that the childs father did know about the kid when he was born but she never pushed for child support as she did not want him in the picture as well...
She disappeared back in August... and now she is back... but has disappeared again... but I do not know the details...
Each time that these girls disappear the girl that I dated from social services calls me about two or three days later... "Just to see how I am doing"... and the last time told me in these exact words... "You really should not date anyone for a long time... you won't keep getting hurt"...
I do not know what to do... I hate to think that I brought hardship into these three ladies lives simply by dating them... and while I know a simple answer is not to date anyone else in the future that has kids or that is not getting child support is there anything that I can do...
Can Social Services take it upon themselves to go after a father that does not know he even has a child for child support... what is my recourse for action... I just want this to stop...
If the girl that I dated from Social Services is working within the legal limits of the law... then I am sitting here with my hands tied... but if she is abusing her authority or doing something illegal I want to know because I would burn myself to the ground to out her...
Thanks in advance for all your help...
The problem is... that she keeps interfering with my relationships...
I have dated three girls... since then and all three of them have mysteriously disappeared on me... things were going well... and then poof gone... and I mean very well... no arguments... nothing...
Well I finally found out some answers from the first girl I dated... she had a single kid... the father was not in the picture and she was not getting child support... it seems that some how social services got involved in the picture behind the scenes and started to force the issue... she had never told the father of the child about her son... and so during all of the pressure and stuff she bailed on me...
Turns out the second girl that I was dating was in the same situation... her oldest child (she had two)... was from a different father... and she was not collecting child support from him and did not want him in the picture... this one I have not went back and confronted yet... but it would not suprise me if there was not a similar connection...
Finally the thrid girl told me that the childs father did know about the kid when he was born but she never pushed for child support as she did not want him in the picture as well...
She disappeared back in August... and now she is back... but has disappeared again... but I do not know the details...
Each time that these girls disappear the girl that I dated from social services calls me about two or three days later... "Just to see how I am doing"... and the last time told me in these exact words... "You really should not date anyone for a long time... you won't keep getting hurt"...
I do not know what to do... I hate to think that I brought hardship into these three ladies lives simply by dating them... and while I know a simple answer is not to date anyone else in the future that has kids or that is not getting child support is there anything that I can do...
Can Social Services take it upon themselves to go after a father that does not know he even has a child for child support... what is my recourse for action... I just want this to stop...
If the girl that I dated from Social Services is working within the legal limits of the law... then I am sitting here with my hands tied... but if she is abusing her authority or doing something illegal I want to know because I would burn myself to the ground to out her...
Thanks in advance for all your help...