Summer vacation is coming and I'm glad to be away from my SO?

[DorothyFay]

I've been with my man for 4 years this summer, and everyone says our relationship is "perfect." I live with him in his dorm room because my roommate and I would not have meshed very well. We've been doing well until last week when I started feeling really depressed. It seems like all we do is fight, ignore each other because we're so wrapped up in our own lives, and have sex once in a while. We've talked about getting married and moving out West in a couple of years, but now I'm not sure that's what I want. I've also gotten really close with a male friend over the last school year and, if I was unattached, he's the type of guy I'd go for. I'm not about to throw away four years of relationship though, and we have to work in the same building next year. Do you think a summer apart will be helpful in figuring out what I want from "us?"

 

[oliveyam]

I think that since you haven't been feeling this way for long, you need more time to sort out your thoughts. I'm not sure you should spend the entire summer apart though, it's not the best problem solving method and there's a good chance you wouldn't get back together. Just try to talk with him about what's going on, it'll help with the issues if they can be helped and it'll help you decide what you want.