Terrified from the guy in last relationship...hard to get over and move

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CaliGirl

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on..what to do? Hi everyone,
I have quite a complicated situation....In relationships..i am usually very Independent,i break up, i move on..and it has never been a problem for me..Until i dated this last guy...and it was a horrible experience..Lots of fights..argument..he made stupid accusations and what not...he even stalked me...and wouldn't leave me alone.(we were together for only a month and half!) I told him word by word to leave me alone and he finally did..after a week of phone calls and messages.
Now when i meet new guys...i am really scared of getting to know them. I just recently met a cool guy and he said few things that were exactly what my ex said..but things that any guy would say.
I started comparing...and then for the whole night and day all i thought of what my terrible relationship and how annoying things were.
And now i don't feel like getting to know him or take the effort to get to know anyone cuz i am scared they will be as psycho as him.
It is soo strange!...I really hope time heals it..but its been more than two months already...any advice? Am i being too weird?
 
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LittleScar

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I think that it would be difficult not to compare the two, but not every guy is going to be like that. If this new guy seems really nice and caring then you should tell him what happened in time, and he will/should be understanding. In time you will learn to feel less unsure about everything but for now, try not to distrust people because they seem similar to someone else.
 
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