ok, say a guy is IN LOVE with a girl on one end of the stick, but doesnt want to marry her cause of his insecurities....ok, now he LOVES another woman, which he feels at the time is the one for him...ok now he is steady being played by the lover (the girl he is in love with) but can't let her go...she's basically his "mother" to him to help him sustain the other relationship so he can build confidence to date chicks like the lover or possibly the lover and at the same time he is learning the lover and falling more deeper...ok after say about 10 or 20 years of the triangle, he FINALLY leaves the wife (the one he loves)...and goes to the lover...was he right by finally following his heart after 20 years or what? did the lover come out stronger as well....kinda like the Garth Brooks/Trisha Yearwood saga...he was in love with Trisha for years before he left his wife for her...he admitted it on Oprah...anyway, you think it all works out in the end or what?