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<blockquote data-quote="rainwriterm" data-source="post: 1510655" data-attributes="member: 250297">Way to go mom!&nbsp; You let your natural mommy instincts kick in and took care of your daughter.&nbsp; That is something you can be proud of, not frustrated about.&nbsp; You can also be happy that you have a little girl who trusts in you so strongly and who isn&#039;t willing to give up on you so quickly.&nbsp; She held out hope that you would take care of her, and you did.&nbsp; Way to go!Any time you try to exert your control over your daughter&#039;s psychological needs, you are going to be in for a long struggle, regardless of whether you follow the rules or not.&nbsp; Most sleep training experts will tell you that any break from the standard will usually result in needing to start back over again.&nbsp; Most babies would tell you that the break from the training actually shows them that you are going to take care of them and that it actually helps them sleep better.I wonder, though, why you are content listening to an hour and 15 minutes of constant crying and of going in to pretend to comfort her every (15? 20? 30?) minutes rather than spending just 10-15 minutes snuggling her down at the beginning of the night and being done with it.&nbsp; It is admirable that you want to teach her how to sleep on her own, but you actually have to *teach* her, not throw her into the pool, check on her every 15 minutes, and hope she figures out how to swim.Edit:&nbsp; Yeah, sleep training is awful.&nbsp; The thing about teaching them how to sleep on their own is that you really have to *teach* them.&nbsp; Babies who don&#039;t respond well to sleep training typically need Mom right there next to them guiding them through the steps of falling asleep.I wonder, since you already have to take such a long time to get her down when you&#039;re holding and rocking her, if you&#039;re either trying to get her to sleep too early or too late.&nbsp; If she just isn&#039;t tired yet, it will take a while.&nbsp; If she is too tired, she&#039;s going to really struggle to fall asleep because she&#039;s so sleepy that she can&#039;t sleep.&nbsp; If you can get the &quot;putting her to sleep&quot; part right around when her eyes are starting to get droopy, when she yawns a bit, and starts to get a little cranky, you might be more successful than if you try too early, or wait until she is crying from sleepiness.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="rainwriterm, post: 1510655, member: 250297"] Way to go mom! You let your natural mommy instincts kick in and took care of your daughter. That is something you can be proud of, not frustrated about. You can also be happy that you have a little girl who trusts in you so strongly and who isn't willing to give up on you so quickly. She held out hope that you would take care of her, and you did. Way to go! Any time you try to exert your control over your daughter's psychological needs, you are going to be in for a long struggle, regardless of whether you follow the rules or not. Most sleep training experts will tell you that any break from the standard will usually result in needing to start back over again. Most babies would tell you that the break from the training actually shows them that you are going to take care of them and that it actually helps them sleep better. I wonder, though, why you are content listening to an hour and 15 minutes of constant crying and of going in to pretend to comfort her every (15? 20? 30?) minutes rather than spending just 10-15 minutes snuggling her down at the beginning of the night and being done with it. It is admirable that you want to teach her how to sleep on her own, but you actually have to *teach* her, not throw her into the pool, check on her every 15 minutes, and hope she figures out how to swim. Edit: Yeah, sleep training is awful. The thing about teaching them how to sleep on their own is that you really have to *teach* them. Babies who don't respond well to sleep training typically need Mom right there next to them guiding them through the steps of falling asleep. I wonder, since you already have to take such a long time to get her down when you're holding and rocking her, if you're either trying to get her to sleep too early or too late. If she just isn't tired yet, it will take a while. If she is too tired, she's going to really struggle to fall asleep because she's so sleepy that she can't sleep. If you can get the "putting her to sleep" part right around when her eyes are starting to get droopy, when she yawns a bit, and starts to get a little cranky, you might be more successful than if you try too early, or wait until she is crying from sleepiness. [/QUOTE]

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