uncertainty about a relationship and need help QUICKLY PLEASE!?

[AshleyNiebuhr]

to give you the quickest run down possible. I've been dating this really wonderful guy for a little over a month now. He cares about me, hes beautiful, and we get a long really well. Now, you may be asking what the problem is here..something happened one night, we were at a friends party and we both had been drinking we got into somewhat of a serious discussion brought up exes I'm sure (1st problem right there) and I'm not sure what happened but the next day we both felt very weird with one another. I'm not sure if it was embarrassment or awkwardness I'm just not sure. Anyway we worked through it (so i thought) we hung out a couple days after the first time was fine and then he came over to watch a baseball game at that was a great night for us i left off feeling wonderful with him again and really knowing i wanted to be with him. Now the problem here is when im not with him i have so much anxiety about him feeling weird again and if we are going to break up and also just if i even feel the same way..im just looking as to why i feel this way? what i should do about it? do i stay with him? do i take time away from him? do i bring it up or don't? IM SO CONFUSED...i just want to feel the way i did about him LITERALLY last week and i feel like im just not getting back to that place. He means a lot to me and i do like him i'm get me wrong...also i don't know if this has to do with it but we haven't had real sex yet when hes been drinking he says he cant preform idk if that makes things worse i think hes over it but im not sure cause it might just have been me. Also i went through a horrible breakup with someone i was on and off with for 3 years could that have something to do with it i mean could i be scared because of that...basically i just want to get back to where i was and i could really use some help...so please ANYONE willing to help me on it or any thoughts would be SO much appreciated thank you so much..


ALSO: we said i love you to each other (big mistake i know) but i think we both just got caught up we had been saying it to each other for a little bit then this whole thing happened and he said it to me first but then after that night he said we were moving to fast and he just wanted to slow things down how do i do this without messing things up and then maybe one day really falling in love with him because he sure does have potential i already care about him tons ughh PLEASE HELP