Virgin shame in college? ?
I'm 20. I'm a girl. I'm not bad looking, people say I'm cute in my looks and I always get compliments on my intelligence and personality. But I have hardly dated, and I am a virgin. I feel like society hates me for it. Its not that I don't want to have sex, it's just that when opportunities arose, I always thought to myself 'I could do better, I deserve better'. The upsetting thing is my friends know and I think they tried to pair me off with a guy friend who is also a virgin who I'm just not attracted to. At least it looked that way. It's gets so painfully awkward when people casually talk about all the sex they're having. It's not even that, people make fun of other people who have not had sex for months. A simple human act has yet again attained even more symbols and stigmas, useful for confusing and ostracizing even more people! I feel like the shame won't go away, but even if I do have sex, all I can say is 'I have had that experience, I too can comment and not feel like a loser'. Rant over. Opinions please.
I'm 20. I'm a girl. I'm not bad looking, people say I'm cute in my looks and I always get compliments on my intelligence and personality. But I have hardly dated, and I am a virgin. I feel like society hates me for it. Its not that I don't want to have sex, it's just that when opportunities arose, I always thought to myself 'I could do better, I deserve better'. The upsetting thing is my friends know and I think they tried to pair me off with a guy friend who is also a virgin who I'm just not attracted to. At least it looked that way. It's gets so painfully awkward when people casually talk about all the sex they're having. It's not even that, people make fun of other people who have not had sex for months. A simple human act has yet again attained even more symbols and stigmas, useful for confusing and ostracizing even more people! I feel like the shame won't go away, but even if I do have sex, all I can say is 'I have had that experience, I too can comment and not feel like a loser'. Rant over. Opinions please.