What can be done to curb whining in a 6-1/2 YO?

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QueenKira

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My 6-YO daughter whines (or "whinges", if you're British) about EVERY LITTLE THING. "My pants are too short/long!" "My seatbelt isn't tight enough!" "My barretts aren't even!" "My shoelaces aren't tight enough!" The list goes on and on, and it's driving me crazy. She just whines and cries about every silly little thing, and it's making her not fun to be around. Is there a better way to deal with this?
 
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Shaylene'sMommy

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Tell her that she is a big girl and that she can make her own shoes tighter if she wants them tighter, she can fix her seatbelt herself, roll up her pants herself. Quit giving in to her, I know it is probably very annoying but by you giving in just lets her know that she can get what she wants by whining.

I know this sounds mean but my step daughter used to whine alot in stores for things. One time I was pregnant and she just kept whining for everything so I turned around and practically yelled at her that the way she is talking is UGLY! And that she is a big girl and she is showing everyone in the store that she is acting like a TWO year old! She looked shocked and to this day has not whined for a single thing while in the store. She now asks for things in a calm way. She was 7 at the time and now she is 8.
 
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Elizabeth

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Bad news. She whines because it works for her. It is so annoying you will stop what you are doing and attend to her problem. So the way to make it stop is to change how you react to it. Tell her that whining hurts your ears, or that you can't understand what she says when she whines. Then ignore it until she can ask in a normal tone of voice. If she asks nicely, please respond right away though, because initially she will be unable to do this all the time and if you say things like "In a minute" you are asking for the whine fest.
 
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Rugratzzzzzzzzzzz

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I think its a little bit of the age, and that she has been able to get what she wants, (My middle son was like that for a short time). It wont last long if you start to ignore it, and tell her that unless she talks to you properly you are not going to do any thing. There is going to be a battle of wills for a while as she has got away with it before and the change will frustrate her. You have to win, I know it drives you MAD!!!!!! ( I know it did me) but once you have control things will mostly get back to "normal" (well you know what I mean).

Good luck You can have it sorted in a couple of weeks.

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