What do you think of my karate instructor?

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Philip

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Ok so this has been eating at me and I really don't know what to think. I'll start from the beginning..

So a couple months ago, I was sparring with my karate instructor.. At that time, I was having trouble with my defense.. I was using my elbows to block and it pissed everyone off. I kept accidentally doing it and my instructor gave me warnings.. Then he said he would hit me with his elbow if I kept doing it. Well shortly after it, I accidentally did it again so he had his elbow up. Which I thought it meant for me to kick so he could hit my leg. So I hit light and he did nothing. So I did it a little harder and he freaked out and said "ARE YOU F@$%ING KIDDING ME!?!?!" and yelled and was screaming and went at me hard. I told him I felt like I was going to throw up and he said good. Needless to say, I ran off and after class, I apologized and he said he would forget.

Well, last night, he decided to spar again and he told me to go light and I swear I did. But I guess not and after I kicked him on a power of 1-10 it was probably a 4 he said if I kick him like that he's going to punch me in my god damn f@#$ing mouth.

So I'm curious.. is he a bad instructor for the way he reacts.. Or am I a bad student for not holding my power? He is a little weaker because he had a tumor removed from his brain.. But still.. it scares me that he has done things like that and it makes me want to quit.. I've been there for three years and I have respected him greatly. But now.. I'm starting not to.. What do you think?
But I wasn't going hard on him. I really was going lighter than what I normally do.
 
Look, if you're practicing there is no reason for you to try and use all your strength, especially if he just had a brain tumor removed. Why would you go so hard on him? It's just practice, it's not like he's trying to kill you. Maybe he should not have reacted that way but you need to calm down during practice.
 
You need to learn to control yourself. Physically and emotionally. You can't hit him hard. Maybe you should talk to him.
 
Sounds like dysfunction junction. Idk, i'd probably leave.
 
Talk to him about it.

If you think he's abusive, you should tell someone about it, possibly your parents? It is somewhat typical for a coach to use the "get in your face" approach that seems personal, cruel, mean...etc., but it's just a way to get under your skin. Get a reaction out of ya. Depending, that is if its done right, it could bring out positive results...in your case I don't see him that way. It seems like he just has anger issues.
The bond with a karate instrutor is very personal and should be engaging/a challenge, not a total kick at your self-esteem.

Addition: He might not be himself either, espcially after such a major surgery. I'm sure he is in a lot of pain, probably more than you can imagine and he's trying to keep it in. He might need this job to pay off the medical bills, he should probably not even be at work right now. Give him time but if you think he's just an awful guy, leave immediatly. Its not worth it.

Talk to him about it.
 
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