I hope I didn't make a mistake. I married a man that I love but didn't have that intense desire for. Now, after 10 years, when I think about our waning sex life and the rut we're in I get concerned. People often advise you to get that spark back, I never really had it to get it back. I sort of went for the good, reliable, sweet guy that provides me with support and love since the other passionate direction never worked out. Is it possible to get that when you never had it or do you stay in a friendship type of relationship without the passion and those glances across the room? What would you do? I feel a little lost to tell the truth and a little jealous since I may never have that.