What the was I thinking?
I met this woman on craigslist back in November while I was living in San Francisco. I was on CL one day doing research on jobs and housing and I got bored and drifted over to the w4m section out of curiosity. I was thinking of moving back to NC about 3 hours from where I grew up because my father had passed away and my mother was alone. Considering how much I loved living in SF, I was reluctant but thought that I might give a move a shot this spring.
Anyway, this woman and I made contact and we ended up writing and talking on the phone almost every day;for several hours. We seemed compatible with similar values, interests, and it looked as though we had the same vision...I could go on...
So,after weeks of "connecting" she convinces me to go ahead and make the move in several months earlier than I had planned. I was to pick her up in salt lake city on christmas eve and we were going to drive from there together to the east coast. I drive to salt lake and she never shows up, but phones me blaming it on an ex boyfriend she claims is harassing her. Later she decides to meet me in Tennessee. We spend two days together and it seems great. So after two days, she just disappears into thin air. I go to NC where she already is and I find a place to live. We ended up meeting again on new years day and I spend the next 3 weeks with her because she tells me everyday that she is going to kill herself. So, I am with her trying to nurse her thru difficult times and listen to her rants and raves about her ex husband and alll of her ex boyfriends When I finally get drive to a nearby city to hang out with an old friend, I give her a call and her cabin has been broken in. Someone steals her computer, so I drive back because she is scared and spend the night. Nothing has changed and she is even more distressed and I become convinced that she is suicidal.
I fix the broken door and try to keep her calm. Then, when I go to see her one , she calls the police on me. It turns out that she is telling her friend that I am the one who broke into her cabin.I go home to nurse my wounds but, for some reason, we stay in touch.
We have met several times since but go around in the same messed up cycle. She has convinced her friends that I am a thief and this season has been a nightmare. Now I am stuck here in this depressed and depressing area with no friends in the middle of winter and there is nothing to do but sit here with my laptop and type questions on this s website. What was II thinking when I came here? I think that she is bipolar or has a borderline personality order, which is not particularly unusual these days, but why did I not pick up on the early signs and why did I even get involved with this nightmare to begin with? She has sent me an email threatening me. I just want us to go our separate ways but I know that she will call me again. How do I avoid being sucked it to THAT again?
I met this woman on craigslist back in November while I was living in San Francisco. I was on CL one day doing research on jobs and housing and I got bored and drifted over to the w4m section out of curiosity. I was thinking of moving back to NC about 3 hours from where I grew up because my father had passed away and my mother was alone. Considering how much I loved living in SF, I was reluctant but thought that I might give a move a shot this spring.
Anyway, this woman and I made contact and we ended up writing and talking on the phone almost every day;for several hours. We seemed compatible with similar values, interests, and it looked as though we had the same vision...I could go on...
So,after weeks of "connecting" she convinces me to go ahead and make the move in several months earlier than I had planned. I was to pick her up in salt lake city on christmas eve and we were going to drive from there together to the east coast. I drive to salt lake and she never shows up, but phones me blaming it on an ex boyfriend she claims is harassing her. Later she decides to meet me in Tennessee. We spend two days together and it seems great. So after two days, she just disappears into thin air. I go to NC where she already is and I find a place to live. We ended up meeting again on new years day and I spend the next 3 weeks with her because she tells me everyday that she is going to kill herself. So, I am with her trying to nurse her thru difficult times and listen to her rants and raves about her ex husband and alll of her ex boyfriends When I finally get drive to a nearby city to hang out with an old friend, I give her a call and her cabin has been broken in. Someone steals her computer, so I drive back because she is scared and spend the night. Nothing has changed and she is even more distressed and I become convinced that she is suicidal.
I fix the broken door and try to keep her calm. Then, when I go to see her one , she calls the police on me. It turns out that she is telling her friend that I am the one who broke into her cabin.I go home to nurse my wounds but, for some reason, we stay in touch.
We have met several times since but go around in the same messed up cycle. She has convinced her friends that I am a thief and this season has been a nightmare. Now I am stuck here in this depressed and depressing area with no friends in the middle of winter and there is nothing to do but sit here with my laptop and type questions on this s website. What was II thinking when I came here? I think that she is bipolar or has a borderline personality order, which is not particularly unusual these days, but why did I not pick up on the early signs and why did I even get involved with this nightmare to begin with? She has sent me an email threatening me. I just want us to go our separate ways but I know that she will call me again. How do I avoid being sucked it to THAT again?