What would you think of a man who greets you as "little Sh*t" on the...

C

craziibuti_ful

New member
Joined
Nov 24, 2008
Messages
2
Reaction score
0
Points
1
...first days of meeting him? This is a 31 yr old man I met at a restaurant. He approached me because I was eating by myself and since then it's been about 2 weeks. We went out once after that (no kiss, no nothing) and we have talked on the phone every other day. Today he calls me and the first thing that comes out of his mouth "hey little Sh*it" . I could not believe what had just gone through my ears so I just said "hey, how are you" etc. Then I was like, "are you drunk" and he said "no". THen I asked "what was the first thing you said?" and he repeated it and then said "sorry". So I was like "I wasnt expecting that" (meaning I dont like it but i didnt want to sound like a kid/ arguing etc ) so i left it there and we kept on talking about other things. However, I cant deny that little phrase really left me thinking, it felt like a BIG turnOFF, and now Im confused. What do you guys think??

P.S I felt like he sounded a little weird, like a slower voice, IDK..I asked but he said he has "sinus".
 
Is he from a rural area? Did he leave his small town and go to college? I'm not trying to sound snobby here...but people from small towns who never go anywhere else tend to think it is allright to talk like that. It is almost a term of endearment.

I agree that is a big turn off and he sounds a bit socially awkward...seriously, he couldn't come up with anything better to say? Good luck!
 
It was just a joke, he didn't mean any offense by it, id be more worried about the way he was speaking, the slower voice.
Get to know this man a little better before you let your self feel any real feelings for him.
 
Okay this is simple, there are plenty fish in the sea, move on.

This man obviously has some problems, whether he was joking or not, he doesn't even know you well enough to make any "jokes" like that. Even then I think it would be pretty disrespectful for someone to address someone in that manner and over the phone of all things.

Just ignore him and move on, or if you want to continue with on with him then explain to him how that comment he made made you feel bad.

If I were you though, I'd honestly move on.
 
Run..... its a sign of disrespect.... and more to come.... I cant believe a man would call a woman he wants to date a "little shit"...... your totally in your right to blow this guy off.... take the flag you have waving over your head and run the other direction... fast.
 
My niece's bf's friends used to call their gf's 'bitches and whores' out in the open. He is A PIG and he is going to use u. The poster who said people from small towns who talk like this is right - small town people here in Australia (especially in Indigenous communities) call each other d***heads and c**ts and I was shocked to find out it was considered normal! The first time someone called me one of the above names, I cut them off right away, and asked the not to use it around me. They were good about it as well. I swear - I'm not a hypcrite - but I would never call anyone any name - it's SO disrespectful. Just think if u had children what would they call them? HE IS A PIG I'm afraid and he's probly into other things as well which u don wanna know about.
 
I think you should just cut the relationship off because unless he was joking around which since he is 31 i doubt he would do, but either way somethings up.
 
I would never take that from a guy. I would let him try to find someone else, and keep as much distance between him and me as possible (I mean you can be friendly, but not so much he thinks you're still interested in him). I don't care if he was joking, high, or has mental issues, he was showing you disrespect, and that not only could be a sign of serious trouble ahead, but your relationship will never work out unless he shows a bit more respect.
 
????? He's an oddball, for one thing. If the two of you had been long time friends or something, I could go along with it, but someone you just met? I'd keep an eye out for any other odd notions, but you don't call someone s*** after only a short time knowing them, its degrading and childish.
 
Back
Top