When will it go past cuddling? Worried he's just not interested for some reason?

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Chloe

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I know this might sound a bit weird/paranoid but I've been with my bf for over thre months now and we've done nothing more than cuddling on the sofa. We're both 19. He always compliments me and tells me how beautiful I am and said he's in love with me etc. so why hasn't anything more happened yet? I asked him in a jokey way why he likes cuddling so much and he said he just likes holding me close. I think it's really sweet but I do also want more.

He gets quite nervous when I try to talk about sex too, even in a casual way, so it's difficult. I knew at the start of the relationship that I was more experienced (at school he was never around girls much) and I'm afriad to say I have dated a few guys who have been very bad news, so maybe I'm just not used to a guy being like this with me?

How should I approach this please?
 
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CalebBaldridge

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Sorry for language but he sounds like a pansy if i were you when you were done/about to cuddle look in his eyes and if he gives you a look you know that kind of look then go in for a kiss/makeout if you will. I would normally say for the guy to do this but in your case i would say go for it and if he trully loves you then it will be smooth sailing and i didnt really use any bad language haha.
 
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sweetie

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I think your boyfriend sounds very respectable and nice... he cares for you a lot. I think the way he is taking the relationship slowly is really good though. Rushing into sex can sometimes ruin a relationship, which is why many people are happy enough to save sex for marriage. I think just be happy with your boyfriend for now. If your urges start to really bother you, talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. He'd probably be very flattered. Just be aware that he may not be ready for sex and just enjoys being with you and cuddling. If you feel that this isn't what you want, you may need to reconsider your future relationship with him.
Good luck :-)
 
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Jeff

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Well me and my girlfriend do cuddle alot and that is normal. But what i think you should do is slowly try to move into it maybe while you're cuddling with him. Otherwise you have to talk to him and say you want to do it and see what he says.
 
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Lilly

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Maybe tell him you love him and wanna show that or something, when you are cuddling again maybe start kissing him but how passion or maybe move your hands under his shirt hes prob nervous in that area cause his a virgin but if you refer to it as 'making love' you might get a little further
 
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openMinded

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i love it when people answer their own questions,i have a question for you,if the shoes were on the other foot how would you want to be approached?this fellow is a different experience than what you are used to.just for the record.self control in our society is a good character trait.nothing wrong with cuddling.he is only being himself and time will fix that.do yourself a favor and give him that time.its good character building for both of you.my hat is off to you both.
 
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