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<blockquote data-quote="eliza" data-source="post: 2715582" data-attributes="member: 247997">Personally, i think attraction can happen both ways: instantaneous and over time. i would say that you shouldn&#039;t turn this &#039;new&#039; guy down just yet. make it clear that you find him interesting/intriguing and would like to be friends.... with an emphasis on the &#039;friends&#039; aspect. don&#039;t feel obliged to lead him on. relationships are a bilateral thing. just because you choose to &#039;go out&#039; with him doesn&#039;t mean you have to kiss him at the end of the night.if you want to establish clear boundaries, how about choosing to go with him AND a bunch of other friends (eg. something simple like a picnic or general dinner outting). that way, you have the option to break away from the group and &#039;get to know him&#039; and then join the group again if he gets too personal.overall, my advice is definitely not to shut him out altogether. take it slow and see if things happen.... but if they don&#039;t, you haven&#039;t led him on. good luck <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="eliza, post: 2715582, member: 247997"] Personally, i think attraction can happen both ways: instantaneous and over time. i would say that you shouldn't turn this 'new' guy down just yet. make it clear that you find him interesting/intriguing and would like to be friends.... with an emphasis on the 'friends' aspect. don't feel obliged to lead him on. relationships are a bilateral thing. just because you choose to 'go out' with him doesn't mean you have to kiss him at the end of the night. if you want to establish clear boundaries, how about choosing to go with him AND a bunch of other friends (eg. something simple like a picnic or general dinner outting). that way, you have the option to break away from the group and 'get to know him' and then join the group again if he gets too personal. overall, my advice is definitely not to shut him out altogether. take it slow and see if things happen.... but if they don't, you haven't led him on. good luck :) [/QUOTE]

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