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Im sorry this is kinda long lol but I'd appreciate if you would help me....
I'm 19 and I do have a few friends that I talk to too and sometimes hang out with and some acquaintances I talk to once in a while but when I meet new people and introduce myself and they introduce themselves and then they or myself will say "so what do you do? what do you go to school for?" and after that conversation....it gets silent... i don't know what else to do sometimes when someone says something and i have no clue what to say i just smile and nod or i kinda laugh and I sometimes can never think of things to say/talk about, basically keep a conversation until it just awkwardly gets silent, and no one speaks ... I mean Iv always been sort of the quiet type because allot of the times i just didn't know what to say to people whether its in a group setting or im by myself with one person and people have called me quiet even my friends have and Iv been called mysterious by my drama teacher once lol anyway in my head im like thinking im gonna be talkative, ill do/say this, that and then when im with other people i just blank out and i don't know what to say its frustrating...Like today me and my friend went to a potluck party..we saw some people that we knew and met some new people..I felt awkward some of the time... we would be in a group and just start talking like they would start talking about giraffes and what kind of noises they make and what other animals make noises that we humans cant hear and everyone was contributing to the conversation and i was there standing quietly not knowing what to say so at the end of the conversation they stopped talking about giraffes and there long necks I said "all i know is that giraffes have long purple tongues"basically the first thing that came to my mind lol..there was an awkward silence for a few moments and then one girl was like "of left course you would know that" jokingly and to kind of lighten the mood and we all laughed and i felt just kinda embarrassed.. My friend was mingling with everyone, laughing, making plans with a few people to maybe go out, made new friends and was talkative to everyone and at the end when we she got there numbers etc..not going to lie I felt kinda jealous lol..i only hugged and said bye to some of them/light conversation and that's it didn't make any new friends maybe just some new acquaintances ....Can someone please give me some tips/pointers on how to keep the conversation going and stop it from being awkward?. Is there a way to fix this? I want to be fun to talk too, make new friends, get new numbers, get invited to more places and also I could talk to a guy with confidence and maybe possibly have my first date or boyfriend? lol
and also I'm too embarrassed to dance anywhere with people present. At the party we went to today we put on music and people are like pulling on my arms trying to get me to dance, my friend was trying to get me to dance and I tell them no or i would try to move but im just so awkward and my friend would be a bit disappointed and I felt kinda bad ..I was so bad at dancing i was moving alittle tryna figure how to bend my legs or how to move my feet, i tried to copy what some other people were doing but i couldn't...I know you're supposed "move your hips" and "go with the music" but that doesn't help me at all. How can I learn? . everyone else around me is great at moving around dancing even the non dancers are good and its just me who's usually just me who's the awkward one whether its at parties, wedding receptions etc...i hate it! I want to get up and dance with everyone and sing along and not just sit on the side but i just don't know how to dance or "move" is there any videos that could also help me out?
thanks xo
I know there are some errors..I should have proof read it lol
I'm 19 and I do have a few friends that I talk to too and sometimes hang out with and some acquaintances I talk to once in a while but when I meet new people and introduce myself and they introduce themselves and then they or myself will say "so what do you do? what do you go to school for?" and after that conversation....it gets silent... i don't know what else to do sometimes when someone says something and i have no clue what to say i just smile and nod or i kinda laugh and I sometimes can never think of things to say/talk about, basically keep a conversation until it just awkwardly gets silent, and no one speaks ... I mean Iv always been sort of the quiet type because allot of the times i just didn't know what to say to people whether its in a group setting or im by myself with one person and people have called me quiet even my friends have and Iv been called mysterious by my drama teacher once lol anyway in my head im like thinking im gonna be talkative, ill do/say this, that and then when im with other people i just blank out and i don't know what to say its frustrating...Like today me and my friend went to a potluck party..we saw some people that we knew and met some new people..I felt awkward some of the time... we would be in a group and just start talking like they would start talking about giraffes and what kind of noises they make and what other animals make noises that we humans cant hear and everyone was contributing to the conversation and i was there standing quietly not knowing what to say so at the end of the conversation they stopped talking about giraffes and there long necks I said "all i know is that giraffes have long purple tongues"basically the first thing that came to my mind lol..there was an awkward silence for a few moments and then one girl was like "of left course you would know that" jokingly and to kind of lighten the mood and we all laughed and i felt just kinda embarrassed.. My friend was mingling with everyone, laughing, making plans with a few people to maybe go out, made new friends and was talkative to everyone and at the end when we she got there numbers etc..not going to lie I felt kinda jealous lol..i only hugged and said bye to some of them/light conversation and that's it didn't make any new friends maybe just some new acquaintances ....Can someone please give me some tips/pointers on how to keep the conversation going and stop it from being awkward?. Is there a way to fix this? I want to be fun to talk too, make new friends, get new numbers, get invited to more places and also I could talk to a guy with confidence and maybe possibly have my first date or boyfriend? lol
and also I'm too embarrassed to dance anywhere with people present. At the party we went to today we put on music and people are like pulling on my arms trying to get me to dance, my friend was trying to get me to dance and I tell them no or i would try to move but im just so awkward and my friend would be a bit disappointed and I felt kinda bad ..I was so bad at dancing i was moving alittle tryna figure how to bend my legs or how to move my feet, i tried to copy what some other people were doing but i couldn't...I know you're supposed "move your hips" and "go with the music" but that doesn't help me at all. How can I learn? . everyone else around me is great at moving around dancing even the non dancers are good and its just me who's usually just me who's the awkward one whether its at parties, wedding receptions etc...i hate it! I want to get up and dance with everyone and sing along and not just sit on the side but i just don't know how to dance or "move" is there any videos that could also help me out?
thanks xo
I know there are some errors..I should have proof read it lol