why do girls go back to crappy relationships?

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CYNTHIA

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My sister has been with her bf for a year now. They fight about everyday which is annooying! Everyone always tells her to breakup with him and at time it seems like she will but she doesnt. SHe always ends up giving him a chance -_- He's had about 10 million chances :o So two days ago she finally broke up with him :o But for some reason she texted him and offered another chance -_- I dont understand why she keeps going back to him :o He is nice an all but not bf material. He gets mad at stupid little things and is alwaays on his phone :o which is rude!!! My older sister and I dont seem to understand why she keeps going back to him :o she is just hurting herself. any ideas of advice i can give to her???
 
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aprilt

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Most people are just use to being in a relationship and scared not to be in one if that makes sense.. They'd rather be with someone than no one which makes no sense.. Also maybe she's afraid she won't be able to find anyone else.. She is hurting herself because she's not giving herself enough credit and afraid to be independent.. Maybe you could try explaining that to her.. Good Luck...
 
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Maria

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I think she's got to get him out of her system. She might have to reach rock bottom to get sick of him, and to get sick of herself, being with him. It's hard to make the break when you're attached I guess?
 
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Jerome

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sometimes she might find back the exact same person because she dont know what she is looking for. i recommend her to read the book called laws of attraction. It shows how you can find the attraction you want.
 
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AmberP

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I can give u some advise cause well I have been doing the same thing as ur sis lol
And alot of times i do consider breaking up with him but then when my family starts downing him and telling me what to do i'm agianst it. I would say quit telling her to break up with him first of all she probably has got that u all want that.

And talk to her about it in a nice way be like so .... what do you see in this guy. Why do u like him so much. figure out what she is thinking. Who knowes u might be surprised at her answers. Then maybe at the end throw in well I'm glad u to are together if thats what makes u happy I just love u and think u deserve the best and in my eyes this is not the best.

She will get out of it eventually ....
 
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jimmy

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i think she has whats called "blind love" or "tunnel vision". SHe might still be getting over the fact that he wanted to go out with her, yes i know it's been a year but still... All i can think of is try to wake her up to the not so good things about him, but do it gently, i had 5 older brothers, including a twin and they could seem overbearing and VERY controlling at times. My advice is to stand by her, and make sure she doesn't get hurt, sit her down and tell her your opinion, don't force it on her, just say, this is what i think...
Hope this helped =)
 
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Steven

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Many Woman have been proven by psychological studies to suffer from low self-esteem. Maybe she feels she can not do better or maybe she feels she needs a man to define her.
 
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