People who choose to supports hate ideologies deserve to be shame and demonize.. The ridicule that feminists get on an online forum is nothing compare to the hate campaign that their movement waged against men (for 50+ years) in the real world.
That is very impressive for a feminist and hopefully this will help us see eye to eye. Because I think I can help you understand. I have observed men have been blamed (for being bad) and ridiculed (for being stupid and incompetent) for pretty much my whole life. Most particulary though between the years 1990-2000. Believe me, I was all on board with the attacks and ridicule prior to these years. It made me feel good, smart, and accepted to trash the bad guy. The acceptance was probably what I really wanted most because I was a teenaged boy. And I found the intellectual feminist type very attractive. But as I turned 18 in 1990, and became the bad guy, it was harder for me to accept the blame and ridicule. In fact, it was quite hurtful and before long I resented it. When I started to examine my previous assumptions and put feminist dogma to scrutiny I realized that I had been duped and that a lot of it was lies, warped logic, bigotry and extreme emotional appeal. So feminism was my sworn enemy.
My attitude since has been that if feminism will ridicule men, I will ridicule feminism. I do not see any reason why it should not be so. We complain about it because we don't like it and wish it were not there. But since it is, we ridicule it. It seems like ridiculing feminism has become much more popular in the last ten years. So you should continue to expect this.
Also notice an interesting aspect of your question is that it pits men against feminists, not men against women. I think this is an extremely telling point. More and more women are chosing men over feminism. You can read about it here on GWS every single day.
Most of the people on theses forums act like misinformed fascist turkeys. I see both sides trying to justify their deluded objections with crass insensitivity and name calling. Even if their objections are worthy of thought they go and ruin every good point they make with a nasty comment, a disparaging and personal remark just because ideals differ.
Both sides as far as I am concerned act like pre-teen testy juveniles with their online buddies and shove their ethos down others throats. Then when they can’t seem to agree both side rears their ugly fascist heads. And then they all flutter about like they think they are some sort of neo-colonialist thumbing people up and down for PERSONAL OPINIONS! I swear I sometimes feel like Charlton Heston on a primate planet.