Why do you think butch lesbians have an easier time getting dates than feminine...

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...gay men? I don't mean to sound b*tchy but do NOT tell me I'm generalizing. YES, I know some lesbians reject butch women and some gay men are attracted to feminine men. But most often, its not the case. And I don't understand.

As a gay male, I commend my dear lesbians for not rejecting butch girls because she "looks/acts too much like a man".

But my fellow gay men are a different story(for the most part). I'm a VERY feminine gay male. 33 years old and I've only had a total of 4 sexual encounters. I have lots of friends but NO boyfriends. Most of my lesbian friends prefer butch lesbians and even if they don't exactly prefer them, they still don't mind dating them. But my most of my gay friends(masculine or feminine) want masculine guys. I personally don't care. I like both.

Why are butch lesbians in demand but femme gay guys are not? Both of them aren't conforming to gender norms. If a butch lesbian has an equal chance of getting a date as a lipstick lesbian does, why doesn't a femme gay man have an equal chance of getting a date as a masculine gay man does?
 
I dont really have an answer but frustration left from an encounter at lunch today has me wanting to get in on this question. Im a femme lesbian and cant ping anyones gaydar to save my life. I have to introduce myself to a lesbian and TELL her that Im gay to get anyone to look at me twice! At least everyone knows youre gay!

And isnt the stereotype that the femme guys get all the men and the masculine ones dont? Look at Jack on Will & Grace
 
that's a good question. maybe you just have branch out and meet some people. somewhere there are guys who like feminine guys, you just have to find them.
 
lol... it's just ur opinion based on ur situation. there are no actual facts behind this at all... except that u haven't had many sexual encounters. if u are not happy being a fem gay male... then change. i hope it's not ur personality or something like that behind the reasoning u don't get laid or dated???

as a boi ish girl. some would say butch... i'm glad that i have the perfect gf. i mean... i'm in demand and all.
 
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