Why does eHarmony seem to do better than God at matching couples for marriage?

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eHarmony's divorce rate is far lower than the U.S. rate for believers in God.

Why do believers have higher divorce rates than nonbelievers, in general, even though God is supposedly on their side? What does it say about God's lack of leadership when It can't even maintain couples according to Its own ironclad rules of marriage?

Worse, what does it say about the husbands, who are supposed to be the dominant side of the marriage arrangement, when they can't heave the load?
Oli: If God did indeed create every single thing in the universe, that means God created every second of life we have on this planet. Each footstep in the sand we're to create is in God's plan. This also means that God has planned out each and every person's destiny, including whom they will shack up with and marry.
Munchkin: Wasn't my thumbs down, and I don't have statistics handy. :-)
 
Because even god makes mistakes and this time he just made to many. But god made the person who made eharmoney.
 
First off... Eharmony has been around since when? 2000? Give or take. They have matched, lets say 1000 couples. I know it's more, but I'm using that round number as an example. How many couples do you think God has beared witness of union? FAR MORE!

God.. He doesn't "match" us with anyone. He designed us with "free will" Also, believers in God, are also sinners. Failures with faith, if you will.

Its unfair to compare one against the other. E Harmony claims they designed a system to match personality types with one another. God designed those personalities!
 
In relationships, as always, God is just screwing with people in a "test" of some kind that nobody really ever understands. God has always liked to inflict massive pain and suffering upon those he "loves" as he does this "testing." This "love" is the same reason why the Nazis treated people in such a horrific manner. They truly loved those people, especially the Jews, but they were merely testing them. On the other hand, eHarmony is trying to match people without all the Godly horrors (Oops! I mean love) of "testing" so they're bound to have a better success rate.
 
You've got some issues, but that's for a different section.
Firstly, if you are an American, then you know well over half the people who check that little box next to 'christian' are really not practicing dedicated believers. You would likely find most of those people at the same concert, at the bar with the same people who checked 'nonbeliever'. So with that said your questions begins to fall apart as far as 'God' is related to it. Because your comparing a statistical average that is incorrect.
But to answer your question within the parameters that you define:
Possibly eharmony was created by God's divine intervention?(I hate using just eharmony cuz i really get the feeling that this may be some weird advertising track for them.)
Research the cultural guidelines of the Khazars. It was their custom/law to use a 'matchmaker'. Ever see Fiddler on the roof? yeah, the matchmaker.
So if God's supposed people had a custom/law for using a matchmaker, to satisfy God's desires in our lives then how far from that concept is eharmony? Or any of the other matchmakers available on the internet?
Just a thought.
 
Verifiable statistics for ratio of divorce, please?

ETA: So, no stats provided, and a thumb down given? That speaks volumes :o) You're clinging onto your atheism deseprately if you're having to conjur fake numbers to support your position. If and when you decide to approach all of this with honesty, it would be an honour to talk about it with you.

Take care.
 
eharmonys divorce rate is not lower
http://marriage.eharmony.com/advice/marriage-problem-7.html

the divorce rate for people of God is the same as the rest of the world.

http://www.christianpost.com/article/20080404/study-christian-divorce-rate-identical-to-national-average/index.html
The Barna Group found in its latest study that born again Christians who are not evangelical were indistinguishable from the national average on the matter of divorce with 33 percent having married and divorced at least once. Among all born again Christians, which includes evangelicals, the divorce figure is 32 percent, which is statistically identical to the 33 percent figure among non-born again adults, the research group noted.

it says nothing about God

it says a lot about the followers of God. they are using their free will to disobey God when it comes to marriage.

your assumption of every second of our life being planned is incorrect.
we have free will to follow god and reject him or accept and follow him.

God does not control our choices
 
Who said God chooses our mates? I don't think so. Once again people putting their failures on Gods shoulders.

Just like we blame Mama for everthing wrong in our lives.
 
OHAI Kitteh!

I would need to know a few things.

Did they break down the eHarmony stats by faith? (ie. which God)
Among those in same faith marriages, did they list denominations?

I know in my faith, divorces are rare. It is an oath, and we view oath-breakers to be just as bad as murderers. So about the only time it happens is when it's an interfaith marriage. (ie. Heathen and Christian or "other") Also, we are partners in marriage and view men and women as equals. So the problem usually comes when the non-heathen male tries to dominate the heathen female.
 
if it wasn't for God eharmony wouldn't even exist....God made EVERYTHING....ugh ignorant people.
 
DON'T JUGDE GOD. HE MAY BE ON YOUR SIDE BUT HE CAN'T HELP YOU..HE LEADS YOU TO THE RIGHT DIRECTION SO MARRIAGES THAT WERE NOT FOUND ONLINE WERE OVER FOR A REASON. eharmony is for people that just can't find the right person. they probably stay together because they started off online and then met.. most marriages start off in person and you get to know them quicker...learning things that u didnt want to know :]
 
1) Why does eHarmony seem to do better than God at matching couples for marriage?

You *do* realize, don't you, that none of God's matches end in divorce?


2) Why do believers have higher divorce rates than nonbelievers, in general, even though God is supposedly on their side?

Evidence for this claim? My understanding was that the divorce rate among nominal Christians was identical to that of the general population.


3) What does it say about God's lack of leadership when It can't even maintain couples according to Its own ironclad rules of marriage?

? You are confusing several issues with this statement. God has given humans free will. He does not normally mandate who is to marry whom. People make that decision, not God, and it is people who make the decision - frequently sinful - to divorce, not God.


4) If God did indeed create every single thing in the universe, that means God created every second of life we have on this planet. Each footstep in the sand we're to create is in God's plan.

Just because it is included in God's plan does not mean that God *intended* for such a thing to happen. Foreknowledge does not of necessity include control. For example: if I build an automobile knowing without a doubt that one day it will fail, I am not responsible for that failure. Even if I know that one day some drunk will run it into a tree and kill himself, I am not responsible for what I know that drunk will do with the car I build.

God knows what humans will do, but he does not (normally) control it.

Jim, http://www.BibleSelector.com
 
God is the Creator! Not the butler! Did you ever think that maybe He could care less about who you are with? On the other hand: Did you ever think that maybe your just not following His cue? Then again, do you want to be a puppet on a string? Maybe God allows you to do things until you finally realize the truth...or not. To be true: God cares about one thing: A Faithful Church (made up of people not buildings) married to His Son Jesus Christ.
 
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