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Message: <blockquote data-quote="brwneyedgrl" data-source="post: 1950764" data-attributes="member: 706995"><p>Ok..trying to be gentle but truthful at the same time..  Is he suppose to put off his life with his children because you cant take time off from work? Im guessing that he doesnt have custody of his children so he has time frames in which he can have vacations with his children and more then likely because he doesnt have custody his family doesnt get to spend much time with his kids especially "if" his family lives out of state or out of the area.. its not like he didnt invite u.. or didnt want u to come.. u either chose not to go or like u said couldnt get the time off from work..  Im not saying that he shouldnt take you on romantic get a ways.. because he should make time for u.. but im also guessing since there was no mention of other children involved, and im guessing that he doesnt have custody of his children, and most visitation schedules are usually every other weekend if his kids live in the area, that u and him have plenty of "alone" time when his kids arent there.. so i doubt that u "never" get alone time with him.. You knew this man had children from a previous relationship.. when u married him, what did u think he was going to just put them on the back burner when u came into the picture? And if going on a romantic getaway is so important to u that ur to a point of divorcing him over it (which i must say is stupid) then whats stopping u from setting the getaway up and making it happen even if its just for a weekend when ur both off from work?  And yes i do believe Most men who have kids and are close to their families, would prefer to have family vacations because in a blink of an eye ur kids are grown and out of the house.. 18 years seems like a long time but one minute their 5 years old the next their 18 and living their own lives so its important to take advantage of having as many memories with your children as possible..  If your in your marriage for the long haul there will be plenty of time after the kids are grown to have romantic vacations when they are grown... You seem very immature and unable to handle the situation that ur in, u seem to believe that marriage is one big romantic novel or that it should all be about you.. and its not.. if ur ready to hit the road because you found a lame excuse to leave.. then its time for u to go 2 years into the marriage and ur already whining .. Heck ive been with my husband for almost 7 years and the only romantic get away we've been on was our honeymoon lol.. we both have children and when we have the extra money and the time we do things for our kids.. so ur husband is the normal parent... but again if its that important to u .. then pick up a phone and make reservations to have ur romantic getaway.. why does he have to be the one to initiate everything..??? wheres ur responsibility in this relationship??? ur a grown woman if u want it to happen make it happen..</p></blockquote><p></p>

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