Why does my husband want me to become bisexual for him?

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Crystal

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HI all. Married with 2 kids. My husband has asked me if I would have oral sex on a girl, kiss her and allow her to do the same with me while he watches and takes pictures!!!

He is being SERIOUS about this!! Sometimes he likes to ask me what I would let a woman do to me while we are having sex. For his enjoyment I tell him I'd do all kinda dirty stuff that I would let her do, and I would do to her. Afterwards I make sure to tell him that I really couldn't in real life because I just don't think I am bi. It seems kinky and sexy while talking about it in fantasy but not in real life.

Why does my husband want me to cheat on him so much?
Why does he wish to see his own wife with another person?
Wouldn't he feel that I was cheating on him? Is bisexual activity not counted as cheating with men? This makes me very upset! I have told him too. It still doesn't take away that he wants me with someone else. Does he want the other girl too? Is our marriage on the rocks? Does he love me?
 
Don

Don

Member
Sorry to say, your husband seems delusional...and has become overpowered by his 'fantasies'... What he says he wants and what he really wants, really may be two different things...and he may not even realize it... I can say that the road to disolution of marriage may well begin with adultery...him with anyone else and/or you with anyone else... The 'fantasy' is a horrible idea... Now for the upside...his thoughts suggest it's time for innovative thinking...and, it sounds as though, while you 'correctly' want to salvage your marriage, you ARE willing to "learn some new tricks"...to spick up both of your sex lives...and, there's not a thing wrong with that... May I suggest you have a chat with your family doctor...and if he cannot make any suggestions...have him refer you to a professional psychologist, sex therapist, etc... You may even want to take your husband along...
 
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ADR

New member
Some guys are really, really, -really- into threesomes. I can see why it'd be fun, but I don't see the cause for such rabid obsession.

First of all, never jokingly humor his questions again; he's obviously taking you far too seriously.

Secondly... well, just put the brakes on and dig your heels in. He's obviously really considering this and you need to take the bull by the horns.

Remember, you're married with two kids. You're the normal one for refusing. Many men would like threesomes, few receive. He's acting like a big baby for feeling that he should get one from a heterosexual woman who he's been practicing monogamy with for I-don't-know-how-many years. You know how babies turn into brats? They're given everything they want.

Why does he want it so bad? He's a pervert, and he's overdue for a good, cold shower.
 
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kiki07

Member
men are such jerks. they think that if you get interested in women then they can get in the middle of the two of you. whenever a guy finds out that i like women too then they get all excited thinking that i'm going to be my friend over and the 3 of us have sex. somehow they don't realize it doesn't work that way unless the women are total idiots who only hook up with other women just to get more men and look like complete sluts and fools.
 
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