i've been dating this guy now for about two months.
the first month and a half couldn't of been any more perfect.
he is the most affectionate, sweet and loving guy i have ever met.
on our second date he told me he is bipolar and takes two different medications for it every single day.
at first this kind of scared me. but i never noticed anything "strange" or bipolarish about him at all. so everything was fine and normal.
a month after we were dating, we ended up having sex.
everything was fine and dandy for the next couple weeks still.
then days before valentines day he was being really sweet and caring.
asked me to be his valentine and said he doesn't want anyone else but me.. etc. it was so wonderful.
then out of nowhere, the very next day he stopped talking to me like he usually does and decided we needed to talk.
it sounded serious and i was really worried. he said it would have to wait until i saw him next [which would be on valentines day]
well, when we were "supposed" to have our talk he didn't mention anything serious at all. i thought i had blown the whole thing out of proportion worrying. we had sex that night instead.
a few more days later after everything was still wonderful.
things could not be better! he changed his relationship status on facebook to in a relationship with me. i was sooo excited.
but then he stopped talking to me. and one hour later changed it back to single.
that's when he again said, we need to talk..
my heart could not of felt more broken.
so a few days later we had our talk. he talked about how he felt we shouldn't of had sex because it was something that should be saved for marriage and it ruined his last relationship.
he talked about how he didn't want to hurt me.
i asked him how. he said it was because he is mental [meaning his bipolar]
we agreed not to have sex and continue to see each other because we both like each other so much. things were fine again.
i saw him over the weekend and spent the night. we got close to having sex but i reminded him of what he told me and we stopped.
we still had a great time together and things could not of felt more perfect.
then out of nowhere it started again.. we need to talk.
he keeps doing this. one minute he's telling me how he wants no one else and he likes me sooooo much.
the next he's saying he's confused and doesn't know what to do.
he thinks sex ruined what we could of been.
but i don't feel that way at all.
i'm absolutely dying for a relationship with him but he's just still not sure.
he think's he'll hurt me.
i'm just so confused.
will it always be like this with a bipolar person? he takes meds, but i'm noticing his ups and downs way more frequently now.
it's come to the point where all i do is cry and don't want to get out of bed.
how can i like someone sooo much that keeps doing this to me?
every other night my heart gets broken.
i think he knows what he's doing and doesn't mean to.
he knows i understand and want to keep him anyway.
so why can't he understand that?
is there a way to make him understand that?
i know that's a lot of questions, but please help.
i need advice bad..
okay i guess my main question is: how do you make a relationship with someone who is bipolar work?
i've explained to him over and over that i care about him for who he is and want no one else.
he's still unsure about us, when he was so sure before.
he keeps changing his mind one day and the next.
how can i help him make up his mind for good?
is there anything i can do or say that i haven't already?
experience please..
the first month and a half couldn't of been any more perfect.
he is the most affectionate, sweet and loving guy i have ever met.
on our second date he told me he is bipolar and takes two different medications for it every single day.
at first this kind of scared me. but i never noticed anything "strange" or bipolarish about him at all. so everything was fine and normal.
a month after we were dating, we ended up having sex.
everything was fine and dandy for the next couple weeks still.
then days before valentines day he was being really sweet and caring.
asked me to be his valentine and said he doesn't want anyone else but me.. etc. it was so wonderful.
then out of nowhere, the very next day he stopped talking to me like he usually does and decided we needed to talk.
it sounded serious and i was really worried. he said it would have to wait until i saw him next [which would be on valentines day]
well, when we were "supposed" to have our talk he didn't mention anything serious at all. i thought i had blown the whole thing out of proportion worrying. we had sex that night instead.
a few more days later after everything was still wonderful.
things could not be better! he changed his relationship status on facebook to in a relationship with me. i was sooo excited.
but then he stopped talking to me. and one hour later changed it back to single.
that's when he again said, we need to talk..
my heart could not of felt more broken.
so a few days later we had our talk. he talked about how he felt we shouldn't of had sex because it was something that should be saved for marriage and it ruined his last relationship.
he talked about how he didn't want to hurt me.
i asked him how. he said it was because he is mental [meaning his bipolar]
we agreed not to have sex and continue to see each other because we both like each other so much. things were fine again.
i saw him over the weekend and spent the night. we got close to having sex but i reminded him of what he told me and we stopped.
we still had a great time together and things could not of felt more perfect.
then out of nowhere it started again.. we need to talk.
he keeps doing this. one minute he's telling me how he wants no one else and he likes me sooooo much.
the next he's saying he's confused and doesn't know what to do.
he thinks sex ruined what we could of been.
but i don't feel that way at all.
i'm absolutely dying for a relationship with him but he's just still not sure.
he think's he'll hurt me.
i'm just so confused.
will it always be like this with a bipolar person? he takes meds, but i'm noticing his ups and downs way more frequently now.
it's come to the point where all i do is cry and don't want to get out of bed.
how can i like someone sooo much that keeps doing this to me?
every other night my heart gets broken.
i think he knows what he's doing and doesn't mean to.
he knows i understand and want to keep him anyway.
so why can't he understand that?
is there a way to make him understand that?
i know that's a lot of questions, but please help.
i need advice bad..
okay i guess my main question is: how do you make a relationship with someone who is bipolar work?
i've explained to him over and over that i care about him for who he is and want no one else.
he's still unsure about us, when he was so sure before.
he keeps changing his mind one day and the next.
how can i help him make up his mind for good?
is there anything i can do or say that i haven't already?
experience please..