9 yr old daughter is afraid of everything and still whines all the time?

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ElizaL

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i thought that she would get over acting like a 2 yr old as she got older, but she still whines and cries all the time over minor stuff such as when she doesnt understand homework, or when she is scared about things, like going to sleep in her room because she saw a bug in her room or something. What can i do to get her to stop this when she does it? i get so frustrated!!
i have tried working with her and being patient for the homework, and she does do pretty well in school, and i let her leave the walk in closet light on so that its not too dark in her room, am patient, and i try to treat her well.. i try to be a good parent, i think it may be an anxiety disorder like someone wrote. i try to let her get involved in things, and spend time with her, im not an over protective parent at all
 
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Jeff

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are you overprotective? do you allow her to try new things on her own? gut-check.. are you an over reactive parent? Do you give in when they cry? remember that children learn their traits. they don't just do things because they are "wired" to. Buckle down and let them know that it is unacceptable. set guidelines and consequences for her actions. DO NOT GIVE IN. It is very hard to reverse it, but don't give up.
good luck!
 
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letterstoheather

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Does someone else in the household whine over things all the time? She could be emulating an adult's behavior.

Or, whining and crying may work for her when she wants her way, so it's a bad habit. she probably doesn't even know why she does it.

I can understand wanting a light left on and being fearful of some things, but fear of everything is odd.

Habits are difficult to break, but it can be done. You could have a heart to heart about the whining and crying, and let her know it's not necessary to get your attention, and it's time we tried to remember to speak in a normal tone of voice and ask politely for the things we may need or want. Ask her to practice, and just remind her. It's going to take some patience.

take care.
 
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Malesia

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if you cried a lot when you where pregnant with her that's why she is like that and she'll grow out of it she is still a baby wait till she is 11 or 12
 
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myswordmytadet

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she grow up eventually when she goes in her room. turn on the lights buy her a nightlight be patient remember when you thought there were monsters under your bed? it was the worst feeling ever i remember being scared just to jump off the bed i thought a giant hand would grab me. suck me under the bed into a another dimension. when i was a kid i thought that picture the purple hand with long clause every thing. now how would you feel as an adult if your thoughts were like this?

i cried when i had o do my home work to lay down the law. if she cries and cries ignore it. if after a while nothing getting done, sit down do baby steps for her ask her the questions make her anwser it. or reward her when she is done with ice cream. if worse come to worse make her write words till she gets an indent in her little finger.


i dont know if this advice is best im not a parent!
 
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poisonous_tree_frog

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Have her tested for a learning disability. I have a daughter that has Asperger's syndrome that acts the same way. Oh the whining never ends. Drives me nuts.

If it isn't a learning disability it could be psychological and there may be medications that could help when she is fully grown. I DON'T recommend kids being on any sort of med. It messes with their brain development. She could also outgrow the problem

Good luck.
 
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fairyfeet782008

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we tell our daughter this is a wine free zone and if she feels the need to wine then go to your room until you have some control and she does...shes 3yrs, but some kids are really sensitive to everything and some just want more attention, so ask her nicely what it is you can do to make her feel more comfy and maybe she'll just stop wining b/c she knows its concerning to you, and you feel you have ran out of options to do. we also just pick her up and hug her no matter where were at and sit down with her and see whats shes feeling like doing, there's usually a reason they wine even if they don't know it at the time.
 
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