GRLPOWERtt
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- Mar 22, 2008
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hey guyz,long time havnt wrote something,but now a problem that i will love to share with u,am sure what i will be talking about is smething that has happened with alot of u guyz,and may happen many times again.
here we go,i've been with this girl for like 4 years shared every single moment 2gather,it was really smething and its wierd that when things r going our own way how we neglect or dont give enough attention to what might happen if things go wrong.
so everything was normal between us and as every relation ship we had our ups and down until we started to realize that alot of things between us differs,so one thing led to another and problems occured so we decided its time to break up and every one should go there own way,but what we didnt consider is its not easy at all to take some one out of ur life when u have spent 4 years with her,everything started deteriorating life wasnt as beautiful as it seemed to,the feeling of butterflies in the stomach never left me,for a mnth and a half i felt my heart getting ripped and re attached and than ripped again,i failed most of my courses in university every thing went gloomy,so here i realized if i leave my self to continue this way it will be a downfall i wont be able to heal from.
so here what i started to do to help my self and all of u people who is in such situation or god forbid will get in such situation the following r what u will have to do.
first get a grip of urselves,2nd try to talk as much as possible to ur family close friends talking releases the built in pressure but talk to people that u really trust like ur mother father brothers sisters any close relative or friend,make sure to take all the things that reminds u of ur boyfriend or girlfriend put them in abox a drawer lock it and give the key to any of ur parents this way the things will be their but u wont be able to see them.
now for the socialities as much as u feel u want to stay alone and believe that what u will want to do,dont go out get ur self busy with what ever u can,hang out with ur friends focus on ur personal life ,never ever make ur boy friend or girl friend the center of ur life,u r the center of ur life let them be an existing part of u but not ur basic blocks,if ur in school or university focus on it and make ur self busy with all activities in it,if u work make a friendly atmosphere communicate with who u can communicate with.
never forget the longer u spend with a person the harder it will take u to take them out of ur life.
now alot have askes this question how does my M.A. helps me in such situations it will help alot,always focus on a good beautiful idea although at first it will be very hard,train as much as u can never give up,keep on ur composure ur discipline,self control when ur mind or brain reminds u of ur partner force ur self to think on another thing.
now after 3 to 5 weeks things starts to get better what u have seen gloomy isnt that gloomy on the contrary u realize that u have taken the first punch that life has to offer of many punches,u start again to see the posiitve sides of what u r doing or what u will do,keep in mind "THAT TIME IS AN EXCELLENT HEALER" so always be patient.
after some time like a mnth or a mnth and half u will have an urge to find some one else "don't" that will be a bounce back give ur self some time so u can think with ur mind not ur heart.
now for me after a couple of mnth the scars r still their and is the pain but they desipate with time that i promise.
and no matter how much pain u will feel as time passes by u will look at it and u will see it was a good thing bcuz alot u will have learned.
for now thats as much as i can remember alot will happen to but what i have said r to a certain extent the normalities of a break up.
anyways i hope what i have wrote will be some help to some people,and if any one is in such problem plz dont hesitate to msg me,i will gladly be their for the help.
take care
here we go,i've been with this girl for like 4 years shared every single moment 2gather,it was really smething and its wierd that when things r going our own way how we neglect or dont give enough attention to what might happen if things go wrong.
so everything was normal between us and as every relation ship we had our ups and down until we started to realize that alot of things between us differs,so one thing led to another and problems occured so we decided its time to break up and every one should go there own way,but what we didnt consider is its not easy at all to take some one out of ur life when u have spent 4 years with her,everything started deteriorating life wasnt as beautiful as it seemed to,the feeling of butterflies in the stomach never left me,for a mnth and a half i felt my heart getting ripped and re attached and than ripped again,i failed most of my courses in university every thing went gloomy,so here i realized if i leave my self to continue this way it will be a downfall i wont be able to heal from.
so here what i started to do to help my self and all of u people who is in such situation or god forbid will get in such situation the following r what u will have to do.
first get a grip of urselves,2nd try to talk as much as possible to ur family close friends talking releases the built in pressure but talk to people that u really trust like ur mother father brothers sisters any close relative or friend,make sure to take all the things that reminds u of ur boyfriend or girlfriend put them in abox a drawer lock it and give the key to any of ur parents this way the things will be their but u wont be able to see them.
now for the socialities as much as u feel u want to stay alone and believe that what u will want to do,dont go out get ur self busy with what ever u can,hang out with ur friends focus on ur personal life ,never ever make ur boy friend or girl friend the center of ur life,u r the center of ur life let them be an existing part of u but not ur basic blocks,if ur in school or university focus on it and make ur self busy with all activities in it,if u work make a friendly atmosphere communicate with who u can communicate with.
never forget the longer u spend with a person the harder it will take u to take them out of ur life.
now alot have askes this question how does my M.A. helps me in such situations it will help alot,always focus on a good beautiful idea although at first it will be very hard,train as much as u can never give up,keep on ur composure ur discipline,self control when ur mind or brain reminds u of ur partner force ur self to think on another thing.
now after 3 to 5 weeks things starts to get better what u have seen gloomy isnt that gloomy on the contrary u realize that u have taken the first punch that life has to offer of many punches,u start again to see the posiitve sides of what u r doing or what u will do,keep in mind "THAT TIME IS AN EXCELLENT HEALER" so always be patient.
after some time like a mnth or a mnth and half u will have an urge to find some one else "don't" that will be a bounce back give ur self some time so u can think with ur mind not ur heart.
now for me after a couple of mnth the scars r still their and is the pain but they desipate with time that i promise.
and no matter how much pain u will feel as time passes by u will look at it and u will see it was a good thing bcuz alot u will have learned.
for now thats as much as i can remember alot will happen to but what i have said r to a certain extent the normalities of a break up.
anyways i hope what i have wrote will be some help to some people,and if any one is in such problem plz dont hesitate to msg me,i will gladly be their for the help.
take care