Eyeseeyouwantingme
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Bottom line this is complicated stuff, yes?
I share the whole uncertainty about terminations that comes with being a parent, but in my case with a few complications. Because our triplets were born premature (like all triplets) I have spent several months of my life in contact with babies not much older than the legal cut-offs for abortion. For those that are describing them as viable... well yes, but only just, and in a whole lot of cases that I was present for, not for very long. Even when babies survive being born THAT premature they tend to be condemmed to a lifetime of serious medical issues - to the point that it has recently become an issue in the sense that they often require expensive support a long time past the point that it is readily accessible to them.
I have also just donated half a dozen of the little potential people (spares left after we had the girls) that we are talking about to people I have never met to (hopefully) help them to have children. I have no idea if I would refer to them as actually being alive as such, but will freely confess to being attached to them in a vague way, and that I do occassionally have 'concerns' (not sure if that is really the correct word) about their hypothetical futures.
All of that said. Anyone who has spent as long as ten minutes in a house with kids that are neither wanted or loved will know that there are many worse things than your existence never having really started. Pro choice, yes, up until I am able to actually get pregnant and carry a child my only input into this debate should really be this sort of mildly pointless rant. Pro-abortion, no. In an ideal world we wouldn't need this as an option other than for a pretty limited bunch of medical emergencies.
But, this is no ideal world, and shows no sign of becomming one any time soon. Part of me also wonders that if all of the anti-choice folks out there are spending their time and energy wisely? There are literally millions of actually alive, and actually starving, freezing, thirsty etc children in the world. Don't they need help more than the currently hypothetical ones? Or is it just my nasty pragmatic streak at work again...
paul
I share the whole uncertainty about terminations that comes with being a parent, but in my case with a few complications. Because our triplets were born premature (like all triplets) I have spent several months of my life in contact with babies not much older than the legal cut-offs for abortion. For those that are describing them as viable... well yes, but only just, and in a whole lot of cases that I was present for, not for very long. Even when babies survive being born THAT premature they tend to be condemmed to a lifetime of serious medical issues - to the point that it has recently become an issue in the sense that they often require expensive support a long time past the point that it is readily accessible to them.
I have also just donated half a dozen of the little potential people (spares left after we had the girls) that we are talking about to people I have never met to (hopefully) help them to have children. I have no idea if I would refer to them as actually being alive as such, but will freely confess to being attached to them in a vague way, and that I do occassionally have 'concerns' (not sure if that is really the correct word) about their hypothetical futures.
All of that said. Anyone who has spent as long as ten minutes in a house with kids that are neither wanted or loved will know that there are many worse things than your existence never having really started. Pro choice, yes, up until I am able to actually get pregnant and carry a child my only input into this debate should really be this sort of mildly pointless rant. Pro-abortion, no. In an ideal world we wouldn't need this as an option other than for a pretty limited bunch of medical emergencies.
But, this is no ideal world, and shows no sign of becomming one any time soon. Part of me also wonders that if all of the anti-choice folks out there are spending their time and energy wisely? There are literally millions of actually alive, and actually starving, freezing, thirsty etc children in the world. Don't they need help more than the currently hypothetical ones? Or is it just my nasty pragmatic streak at work again...
paul