Dorthy_Gail
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- Mar 18, 2008
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As the title suggests... month 14, things not going as well as i'd hoped.
I've been agonising about this for a while now.
This morning I had a reality check, and was sat staring at the screen and admitted to myself just how bloody miserable its making me.
The thing is, I was invited to give a talk at a conferance, which is in three weeks time. I haven't got any decent results, but I'm well-grounded enough in the subject to present a talk appropriate to the audience (multi-disciplinary meeting of industry, commerce and academia, so deep technical details aren't required, just an general introduction into the topic).
I've been hoping each day I'd wake up and feel inspired, but I'm trapped into a research niche that wasn't where I thought the work be (if that makes sense). I was using the talk as a sort of milestone, if i could get through that ok, all would be good. But deep down, I doubt it, i'm pretty sure after the talk i'll feel just as i do now.
So many people have said, 'oh thats just what phds are like', so i'm not sure if I'm just in the middle of a common problem, or if I'm just not in the right place for me.
I don't quit things and a big part of me wants to stick it out, but I'm wondering if thats sheer bloody-mindedness rather than spirit. Also, there isn't just me to consider, there is the GF and her lad (who live with me). I hardly see them because its been going badly, so I always feel I should be trying to get it sorted. And when I'm not trying to get work done, i'm wound up about it and just want space cos my heads wrecked.
The only thing i'm getting any joy out of at the moment is training or playing the guitar, almost all my other interests have dwindled.
I get sporadic moments when i'm enthuiastic about it and at those times, the work goes well. Also, talking to people in my research group, they seem to think I've got a good grasp of the subject and one commented that my level of understanding is certainly on a par with where he was when he was at the same stage.
I feel that if I quit i'd not only be letting myself down, but also the other members of the group and i generally go out of my way to see through my responsibilities, but should i be thinking about myself at this point?
Just been speaking the GF on the phone, she commented that she's pretty sure if I do sack it i'll regret it, but she'll support me whatever decision I make.
My heart is saying life's too short too be miserable, but my head is saying I should grit my teeth and get on with it.
so, any words of wisdom gratefully received.
cheers.
I've been agonising about this for a while now.
This morning I had a reality check, and was sat staring at the screen and admitted to myself just how bloody miserable its making me.
The thing is, I was invited to give a talk at a conferance, which is in three weeks time. I haven't got any decent results, but I'm well-grounded enough in the subject to present a talk appropriate to the audience (multi-disciplinary meeting of industry, commerce and academia, so deep technical details aren't required, just an general introduction into the topic).
I've been hoping each day I'd wake up and feel inspired, but I'm trapped into a research niche that wasn't where I thought the work be (if that makes sense). I was using the talk as a sort of milestone, if i could get through that ok, all would be good. But deep down, I doubt it, i'm pretty sure after the talk i'll feel just as i do now.
So many people have said, 'oh thats just what phds are like', so i'm not sure if I'm just in the middle of a common problem, or if I'm just not in the right place for me.
I don't quit things and a big part of me wants to stick it out, but I'm wondering if thats sheer bloody-mindedness rather than spirit. Also, there isn't just me to consider, there is the GF and her lad (who live with me). I hardly see them because its been going badly, so I always feel I should be trying to get it sorted. And when I'm not trying to get work done, i'm wound up about it and just want space cos my heads wrecked.
The only thing i'm getting any joy out of at the moment is training or playing the guitar, almost all my other interests have dwindled.
I get sporadic moments when i'm enthuiastic about it and at those times, the work goes well. Also, talking to people in my research group, they seem to think I've got a good grasp of the subject and one commented that my level of understanding is certainly on a par with where he was when he was at the same stage.
I feel that if I quit i'd not only be letting myself down, but also the other members of the group and i generally go out of my way to see through my responsibilities, but should i be thinking about myself at this point?
Just been speaking the GF on the phone, she commented that she's pretty sure if I do sack it i'll regret it, but she'll support me whatever decision I make.
My heart is saying life's too short too be miserable, but my head is saying I should grit my teeth and get on with it.
so, any words of wisdom gratefully received.
cheers.