Strongerthanyesterday1
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He's pretty popular in our class (he's very smart. Graduated w. a double degree). When the "set up" idea was announced, ppl were curious to who he liked, etc...what they don't know is that 90% of the time, I'm w. him..it was very weird for me
Been writing about a study colleague who may have shown interest. He's a gentleman/nice to everyone. He would offer (always) carry my heavy backpack, offer to pay for things, study and help me out, etc... He asked me out to dinner and after learned he was "physically attracted" to me. I wanted to know his intentions and asked what he thought of me, felt abt me, and his plan. He thinks good things of me, "doesn't know me well enough" w. the feelings part, and his plan was "we'll see where it goes". He admires me physically and has always been respectful. i never gave in although he likes to give me soft kisses and never expected anything in return fr me. M-F has always been professional and he's been really good about our boundaries.
After that night, I was confused and kept my distance (i didn't want to be the "hot girl" he had "fun" with) Weeks after dinner, he's still here and not buggin me for anything. Lately though, he's been acting different...but maybe in a good way? He texted me over the weekend asking what i was up to (all his old txts were strictly times of when to study). He was excited about something he had been working hard for - when he told me i jumped up and gave him this big hug. We hugged for a long time. As I left the room, he grabed my shoulders and gave me this big hug from behind (not waist but more around my shoulder area) and that never happens (not a PDA guy). He gives me big bear hugs (facing each other) when we leave, he invited me to dinner w him & a friend (whom i don't know) and he paid, of course. He CALLS now when we make plans (to study), i'll text him and he'll call me. He took time off studying for a bit to stay w. me and study for my other class. Today, I was caught off guard when a classmate announced she was going to set him up w. someone and as much as i KNOW he's not my boyfriend nor are we anything, I got a little upset, sad, and jealous (and i'm not those dramatic girls!). He called me later tht night and actually brought up the topic. Whie I was mum he was blunt and said, "yeah so she wants to set me up w. someone she knows....it's weird. I don't know her." He asked if i was still be up later tht night so we could chat online and he set up a specific time and everything. When i Ididn't sign in right away, he texted me...
My guy friend thinks this is all good and the physical thing shouldn't offend me. He said it's good b/c it's how guys express their interest and admiration for a girl they're interested in. He didn't pressure for sex and it's all him giving me pleasure...What do you think?
Been writing about a study colleague who may have shown interest. He's a gentleman/nice to everyone. He would offer (always) carry my heavy backpack, offer to pay for things, study and help me out, etc... He asked me out to dinner and after learned he was "physically attracted" to me. I wanted to know his intentions and asked what he thought of me, felt abt me, and his plan. He thinks good things of me, "doesn't know me well enough" w. the feelings part, and his plan was "we'll see where it goes". He admires me physically and has always been respectful. i never gave in although he likes to give me soft kisses and never expected anything in return fr me. M-F has always been professional and he's been really good about our boundaries.
After that night, I was confused and kept my distance (i didn't want to be the "hot girl" he had "fun" with) Weeks after dinner, he's still here and not buggin me for anything. Lately though, he's been acting different...but maybe in a good way? He texted me over the weekend asking what i was up to (all his old txts were strictly times of when to study). He was excited about something he had been working hard for - when he told me i jumped up and gave him this big hug. We hugged for a long time. As I left the room, he grabed my shoulders and gave me this big hug from behind (not waist but more around my shoulder area) and that never happens (not a PDA guy). He gives me big bear hugs (facing each other) when we leave, he invited me to dinner w him & a friend (whom i don't know) and he paid, of course. He CALLS now when we make plans (to study), i'll text him and he'll call me. He took time off studying for a bit to stay w. me and study for my other class. Today, I was caught off guard when a classmate announced she was going to set him up w. someone and as much as i KNOW he's not my boyfriend nor are we anything, I got a little upset, sad, and jealous (and i'm not those dramatic girls!). He called me later tht night and actually brought up the topic. Whie I was mum he was blunt and said, "yeah so she wants to set me up w. someone she knows....it's weird. I don't know her." He asked if i was still be up later tht night so we could chat online and he set up a specific time and everything. When i Ididn't sign in right away, he texted me...
My guy friend thinks this is all good and the physical thing shouldn't offend me. He said it's good b/c it's how guys express their interest and admiration for a girl they're interested in. He didn't pressure for sex and it's all him giving me pleasure...What do you think?