courtney1990
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I have known my boyfriend for years before we got together. In fact, we were good friends for five years. But then after high school we never really saw each other much until recently. We're both 21 and always have fun when we're together. We love each other and I think we may be in love. We never fight in person, strangely, just over the phone or text. My boyfriend and I have been together since October. It was good for the first two months then he had some financial problems and had to move back into his parents house and also lost his car. He had everything together for years but as soon as we started dating problems started to arise. So, because he had no car, seeing each other became difficult because I had to drive everywhere and we couldn't always go to his house because of his parents being there and it being a little strange. Then if we were to come to my house I had to go pick him up, then drive back to my house, then take him home later. And plus he works everyday. So, as you can see, us spending time together became rare. Then he got in an argument with his parents and went to stay with his brother for a month. Because of this we saw each other less and less because he worked late and couldn't come and go at his brothers. Us not seeing each other really bothered me but he just accepted it and said it would get better. But I just couldn't be happy. I was because I couldn't see him. I blamed him and accused him of not wanting to see me. It just became messy. I look back and regret not having more patience. But the whole time we've been together we were spending it in a bed due to the times we could only see each other. So more time went on and he moved back into his parents house and we began seeing each other once or twice a week. I, of course, wanted to see him more but couldn't protest. He still was stressing over his financial issues. But then I began to get jealous when he'd hangout with his friends because I felt he should have been spending his free time with me since we had spent so much time apart. I'm really not a jealous girl. But then again, I've never been in this situation. I always didn't care if my boyfriends drank, partied, or if they went to bars without me. I always had trust. And they always made time for me. But when I really got upset was when he missed my birthday due to a forced and sudden obligation the day before. He was gone for five days and when he came back he told me he would make it up to me. It really hurt me but I just wanted to see him and trusted he would make it up. That was two weeks ago and has yet to do so. I know he has no money due to him saving it all and taking care of financial matters but it's still upsetting.But I can't do anything about it. I can't make him do anything or see me more. This current situation he's in doesn't allow for normalcy to occur. He's trying to move out, save money, and get his car back so I want to give him some time to organize his life and really think if this relationship is something he wants without pressuring him. Also, school and ballet just started for me so I want to start the semester on stable ground. Therefore, I told him on Friday that I was going to be going to my dads for two weeks and where he lives there is no service (which is true), so we can't communicate. I feel it's a neutral thing to do. I will tell him the truth in time. I just don't want to say, "we need some time apart", because that would have brought unnecessary hurt feelings and/or drama. I told him we should use this time to think about our relationship, and ourselves, and our lives. He was fine with it he said he was going to miss me and was upset. But he's the type of person to take things as they come. So my question is, given the situation, am I wrong to tell him that I'm on vacation just so we can spend some time apart?