so my parents are pretty conservative. my dad is retired military and now homeland security, so now he is of the mind that he's done everything hard or scary out there and as such i have no right to ever be sad or scared and i should just be really happy with my life and all the opportunities i have and stuff. which i suppose makes sense, but i think he takes it overboard. he actually yells if i cry or say something negative (even "i hate tomatoes" is negative to him) and says i should be more positive because my negativity is destroying my life and then i cry more because i have a problem with yelling and then i get in massive trouble. my mom is the kind who was a stereotypical cheerleader in high school, but with fewer friends because she tries too hard to be that cheerleader. she does things because "it's for girls". so i could never do karate or play video games. girls had to do ballet. that kind of stuff.
as for me, i'm 18 now. i love all sorts of music from classical to heavy metal except rap, r&b, etcetera. it's just a personal preferance. i enjoy other cultures and languages and food, karate, wrestling, video games, etcetera. i'm not a tomboy. i still have a fabulous array of cute skirts and dresses and earrings and stuff, scream when i see a spider, and a purse for my puppy, etcetera. but i asked for a computer magazine subscription for christmas and got a week-long lecture on trying to be something that i'm not. *rolls eyes* i also get in real trouble for the music i listen to. they don't even know that i listen to anything harder than pop rock but they HATE it. i'm supposed to listen to either "oldies" or beyonce rhianna and other r&b artists. my dad also gets mad if i do things with other cultures from learning new languages to watching anime (not only is it foreign, but also the characters are too emotional). i understand where they're coming from. we're native american, so they had plenty of trouble during the civil rights era and stuff. and my dad has had bad times in other countries due to his army experience. but it's really annoying and kind of hurtful that the majority of my life and personality and stuff has to be kept hidden from them. i mean, i have to hide my computer and music magazines as if it's porn and keep checkinng the volume on my music so they won't know what i'm listening to and change all the names and covers in my music library.
so does anyone think i should approach my parents and try to talk to them? and if so, how should i do it so they don't shut down and start yelling the second i open my mouth....as an example, how do i explain that i enjoy heavy metal to parents who associate the term with pure devil worship and don't even want me to listen to owl city or fall out boy?
as for me, i'm 18 now. i love all sorts of music from classical to heavy metal except rap, r&b, etcetera. it's just a personal preferance. i enjoy other cultures and languages and food, karate, wrestling, video games, etcetera. i'm not a tomboy. i still have a fabulous array of cute skirts and dresses and earrings and stuff, scream when i see a spider, and a purse for my puppy, etcetera. but i asked for a computer magazine subscription for christmas and got a week-long lecture on trying to be something that i'm not. *rolls eyes* i also get in real trouble for the music i listen to. they don't even know that i listen to anything harder than pop rock but they HATE it. i'm supposed to listen to either "oldies" or beyonce rhianna and other r&b artists. my dad also gets mad if i do things with other cultures from learning new languages to watching anime (not only is it foreign, but also the characters are too emotional). i understand where they're coming from. we're native american, so they had plenty of trouble during the civil rights era and stuff. and my dad has had bad times in other countries due to his army experience. but it's really annoying and kind of hurtful that the majority of my life and personality and stuff has to be kept hidden from them. i mean, i have to hide my computer and music magazines as if it's porn and keep checkinng the volume on my music so they won't know what i'm listening to and change all the names and covers in my music library.
so does anyone think i should approach my parents and try to talk to them? and if so, how should i do it so they don't shut down and start yelling the second i open my mouth....as an example, how do i explain that i enjoy heavy metal to parents who associate the term with pure devil worship and don't even want me to listen to owl city or fall out boy?