be honest and don't judge: has he lost feelings/interest in me? what is going on?

Angela

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I met this boy over the summer. all along he was giving me these little hints that he liked me but didn't wanna see obvious...but EVERYONE told me that he REALLY liked me and that he was VERY shy...anyway, We knew eachother for 5 months and we were GOOD FRIENDS and then FINALLY he admitted to liking me a lot. He told me that he was scared to tell me all along and that he wish he had told me A LOT sooner. I go to school 3 hrs away from him but he came to visit my COLLEGE to tell me this!! I admitted my feelings too so we kissed and cuddled. The next week, he invites me to this music festival and he introduces me to his best friends but then we both hang out alone and everything is great--he kisses me.... The week after we plan to have dinner but he get’s really sick so we don’t go…but I manage to see him at work and we chill after work. The weekand after I don’t see him but I call AND text him telling him I’ll be home so that we can chill. He ignores me all week but when I see him at work on the weekand he tells me that he relapsed on SPEED (I knew he did all kinds of drugs all along). He looked like a complete mess..like he was in some kind of pain and he said that he was really sorry so he gave me this long hug. co-workers also asked him if we were dating and he told them: maybeeee…anyway, throughout the week I text him and msg him and he replies. I don’t see him for 2 weeks but after I msg him to hangout and he says he has tentative plans but will call. He calls and tells me “hey look I know we had this little thing going on a couple of weeks ago but I don’t think we should continue to see eachother.” I suggest being friends and then he agrees. We talk on the phone for 1hr and he says that his life is currently a mess/many things going on and that drugs are ONE of the MAIN reasons why it won’t work…(he has completly abstained so far) what happened here? did he suddenly loose interest in me? or did he lose feelings for me? do you guys think he meant it when he agreed to being friends?
 
he's a smart guy and has drug problems. he doesn't want to drag you into it. you should accept it. i'm not telling you to move on just yet, but give him some space, and if you move on....life happens, don't let it happen without you.
 
Drugs like that can have huge effects on a person's personality. Being good friends with users and being a periodical user myself, I've experienced this odd behavior and I've witnessed it happen to people around me. Sometimes while heavily using, you make decisions that you're so sure about. However, once you've come off of it for a while you realize what you've done and how wrong you were.

It could just be the drugs that's causing him to act like this. However, you have to decide for yourself if you want to subject yourself to the emotional harm someone like this guy can put you through. If you really think he is worth it, you can try to help him. It may just be in your best interests to get out of the entire situation.
 
I don't think its you, i think its the drugs he probably doesn't feel like he deserve you right now and is ashamed of his addiction at the moment. I say you give him sometime and your full support he's going to need it. With the drugs and all i really don't think he's in the right set of mind to be with someone if/when he recovers i'm sure your relationship with him has a chance. best of luck!
 
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