I'm a male and it's so weird because I was one. :-\
I NEVER thought that I would ever become one. I had just been chatting with some people on a music forum and one lady added me on MSN and we started talking on a daily basis. She then said that she liked me, wanted to fly to my city to visit me, etc. I said we could be friends, because I didn't know her enough to be more. She was insistent that she was genuinely interested in a relationship, that I could trust her, that she wouldn't cheat on me, etc. We spent about 5 months chatting daily, and the topic always came up. I guess you could say she manipulated me during that time. When she came to visit finally we ended up together, she said she loved me. I allowed myself to feel more for her.
But then one day she thought i was sleeping next to her but I saw on her laptop that she was writing these things to her friends back home. Laughing about almost having cheated on me. Then I noticed she'd sent a flirtatious email to one of her friends' guy friends with whom she'd had a one night stand before. She'd assured me this was in the past, before she met me, etc.
I'm in a state of total WTF over this. I understand that some people are rather insensitive and selfish in cheating on people. But WTF is up with going through the effort of flying all the way here to be with me, after 5 months of pure resistance and clarification that I wouldn't stand for that, just to show your friends that you can cheat on guys too?
I'm like in a comatose state of WTF atm.
Anyway, share stories and advice.
I should clarify that by "almost cheated" she'd been explaining about how she had been making the effort with some guy and another guy, but they weren't interested.
Re: "Predator? WTF? She fly to meet you, you guys had amazing times. so what you want?"
Read over the part about her insisting for 5 months straight that she wasn't interested in a fling or relationship where she would cheat. And then I see in the email that she'd been methodically trying to make that happen the entire time. If you see that as simply "having great times", then you have a really low standard for behavior you have acceptable to you. The problem would then be yours, not mine.
The problem was never getting out more. I already did that. Like I said, I resisted this idea for 5 months. I was only on a music forum for diversion, much like all of you are on this website motivated by things other than romance.
I NEVER thought that I would ever become one. I had just been chatting with some people on a music forum and one lady added me on MSN and we started talking on a daily basis. She then said that she liked me, wanted to fly to my city to visit me, etc. I said we could be friends, because I didn't know her enough to be more. She was insistent that she was genuinely interested in a relationship, that I could trust her, that she wouldn't cheat on me, etc. We spent about 5 months chatting daily, and the topic always came up. I guess you could say she manipulated me during that time. When she came to visit finally we ended up together, she said she loved me. I allowed myself to feel more for her.
But then one day she thought i was sleeping next to her but I saw on her laptop that she was writing these things to her friends back home. Laughing about almost having cheated on me. Then I noticed she'd sent a flirtatious email to one of her friends' guy friends with whom she'd had a one night stand before. She'd assured me this was in the past, before she met me, etc.
I'm in a state of total WTF over this. I understand that some people are rather insensitive and selfish in cheating on people. But WTF is up with going through the effort of flying all the way here to be with me, after 5 months of pure resistance and clarification that I wouldn't stand for that, just to show your friends that you can cheat on guys too?
I'm like in a comatose state of WTF atm.
Anyway, share stories and advice.
I should clarify that by "almost cheated" she'd been explaining about how she had been making the effort with some guy and another guy, but they weren't interested.
Re: "Predator? WTF? She fly to meet you, you guys had amazing times. so what you want?"
Read over the part about her insisting for 5 months straight that she wasn't interested in a fling or relationship where she would cheat. And then I see in the email that she'd been methodically trying to make that happen the entire time. If you see that as simply "having great times", then you have a really low standard for behavior you have acceptable to you. The problem would then be yours, not mine.
The problem was never getting out more. I already did that. Like I said, I resisted this idea for 5 months. I was only on a music forum for diversion, much like all of you are on this website motivated by things other than romance.