I've heard these silent bombs camouflaged as jokes more times than I care to remember. They always come out of nowhere, and when you're under attack from them - it's either fight or run.
I haven't had a girlfriend or gotten anywhere with women in a while. Frankly, I don't care; I won't go out looking for a one night stand 'cause of it. But when someone says to me in an online conference, "what's that hissing sound I hear? You got a blowup doll there?" or a friend joking about sending me one after I seem a bit more cranky than usual.
To me, that says, "you seem cranky, so since you can't get a girl, how about I send you a blow-up doll." Yet, I won't get mad at this person - they're only doing to me what was apt-ly done to them to the point of making them numb and unable to fight back in fear of coming off as weak.
So, am I wrong? Are blowup doll jokes necessary and should guys take it and pretend it doesn't bother them? I think not, but comment if you can
Thanks for all the replies, ppls! Angela, I agree. I've never used one, that's why when people made fun of me for using them - it made no sense. That's when I learned that... in this country it's a custom to make jokes with absolutely no bearing, turns out, at times. And I was curious why and how is it that people respond to them, like someone said here - with 'yo mama' jokes, vs with "why the f you talking about blowup dolls" hehe.
My point is this... to me there are jokes I'd say to friends, even teasing, and none of them would ever involve their sex lives or lack thereof. Teasing that crosses those lines, I personally take it that this person is either trying to impress a girl by making me look bad, but either way - isn't looking for the kind of friendship that lasts for ages from me.
And I urge people to look into this a liiiil bit more
I haven't had a girlfriend or gotten anywhere with women in a while. Frankly, I don't care; I won't go out looking for a one night stand 'cause of it. But when someone says to me in an online conference, "what's that hissing sound I hear? You got a blowup doll there?" or a friend joking about sending me one after I seem a bit more cranky than usual.
To me, that says, "you seem cranky, so since you can't get a girl, how about I send you a blow-up doll." Yet, I won't get mad at this person - they're only doing to me what was apt-ly done to them to the point of making them numb and unable to fight back in fear of coming off as weak.
So, am I wrong? Are blowup doll jokes necessary and should guys take it and pretend it doesn't bother them? I think not, but comment if you can
Thanks for all the replies, ppls! Angela, I agree. I've never used one, that's why when people made fun of me for using them - it made no sense. That's when I learned that... in this country it's a custom to make jokes with absolutely no bearing, turns out, at times. And I was curious why and how is it that people respond to them, like someone said here - with 'yo mama' jokes, vs with "why the f you talking about blowup dolls" hehe.
My point is this... to me there are jokes I'd say to friends, even teasing, and none of them would ever involve their sex lives or lack thereof. Teasing that crosses those lines, I personally take it that this person is either trying to impress a girl by making me look bad, but either way - isn't looking for the kind of friendship that lasts for ages from me.
And I urge people to look into this a liiiil bit more