Can someone please help me with a complaining and perfectionism issue?

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Well basically I've been an emotional wreck b/c I'm pmsing and I guess I'm complaining a lot more too? I don't realize that I usually do.. and today during tennis practice I was in a really b*tchy mood and I was missing like every hit bc of my bad mood which would piss me off even more..and my friend said I was complaining too much and she'd rather play with someone else... I stopped complaining after she said this but then when I got home I just started crying hysterically.

I'm just upset because I complain bc I'm a perfectionist so when I do something wrong I can't accept my mistakes and I obsess over them.. which leads me to complain... which leads others to be pissed off (no one has ever seemed annoyed that I complain so I never thought I did, before today) and I'm upset bc I'm afraid that other people don't want to be my friend because I complain a lot... and there's no way to undo my complaining. :/ (I'm still not convinced that I normally complain a lot).

My mom said that she would take me for counseling so I can deal with my perfectionism (I also want to go because I have an anxiety/nervousness issue) but I don't feel comfortable going..but I know it'd help a lot.. ugh sorry if this sounds like I'm rambling on.. (complaining? -_- ) but I just really need help.. thanks..
 
If you're still young it could just be a hormonal problem and it could go away as your brain gets used to the changes you're going through. However, you could have a problem with paranoia. Try to understand that your friend probably wouldn't have said that if she knew it would've hurt your feelings that badly. If your problem is paranoia and you just complain like every other person, try noticing when other people are complaining and remember that it may annoy you, but you always get over it. Try to realize that you are going to annoy people sometimes, everyone does, but it may not be as bad as you think. It seems like you're very apologetic and way too hard on yourself. You may also be bipolar but I wouldn't jump to conclusions if I were you. You should talk to a counselor about your problems but if you still don't feel comfortable going make sure you talk to someone. Maybe you can vent to a friend or your mom but whatever you do, don't bottle it up. If you want you can email me, but I'm no professional (only 18). Hope you feel better
 
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